January 5

The Female Brain Book Review: Understanding Empathy


The Female Brain Book Review

Louann Brizendine discovered that almost all of the clinical data in existence on neurology, psychology, and neurobiology focused exclusively on males.

In response to the overwhelming need for information on the female mind, Brizendine established the first clinic in the country to study and treat women's brain function.

In The Female Brain , Dr. Brizendine distills all her findings and the latest information from the scientific community in a highly accessible book that educates women about their unique brain/body/behavior.

The result: women will come away from this book knowing that they have a lean, mean, communicating machine.

Why do women tend to form deeper bonds with their female friends than men do with their male counterparts? These and other questions have stumped both sexes throughout the ages

Louann Brizendine, M.D., brings together the latest findings to show how the unique structure of the female brain determines how women think, what they value, how they communicate, and who they love.

She explains the neurological structures of the brain, and then she goes into an anecdote as if it confirms what she thought about the expression of the brain structure.

Female Brain Determines Women Tend to Communicate Emotionally

I have to make myself clear to all of you... This is not an overview of the full book. That would take ten more articles because I believe that this book can be dissected in to TWENTY more articles.

Why? It's simple. I hear comments from men that I told them about this book and they said to me... "That's some stupid book I don't want to read."

This is the unhealthy ego to the extreme. So many men nowadays are in their ego, and it's sad to me that men cannot even attempt to understand the opposite energy polarity.

Louann Brizendine, M.D., a diplomate of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology and the National Board of Medical Examiners, is an endowed clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco.

She is founder and director of the Women's Mood and Hormone Clinic. After receiving her degree in neurobiology at University of California, Berkeley, and her medical degree from Yale University School of Medicine, she completed an internship and residency in psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.

So I hope that this introduction gets you all to understand that all her findings are spot on. Men will develop a serious case of brain envy as some of the claims you might come across. However, for me, this book made me appreciate women for who they are after reading it.

I've already listed so many reasons you gotta read this book. And I haven't even got started yet. I am presenting this book to you not so much as a full book review, but more of how men and women communicate and why you must be more empathetic. So let's get down to business...

The Female Brain Book: Understanding Empathy

“An eye-opening account of the biological foundations of human behavior. Destined to become a classic in the field of gender studies.” —Marilyn Yalom, author of A History of the Breast

I am not talking about the drama in the teenager of a young woman. I am not going to talk about the DOZEN research studies that she found that are 110% true. 

In The Female Brain , Dr. Brizendine distills all her findings and the latest information from the scientific determines how women think, what they value, how they communicate, and who they love.

While doing research as a medical student at Yale and then as a resident and faculty member at Harvard, Louann Brizendine discovered that almost all of the clinical data in existence on neurology, psychology, and neurobiology focused exclusively on males. However, that would take forever to cover.

It's profound scientific understanding of the nature and experience of the female brain continues to guide women as they pass through life stages.

It also helps men better understand the girls and women in their lives, and to illuminate the delicate emotional machinery of a love relationship.

What I am talking about in this book review is having more empathy in all social interactions. Empathy is really important to women, more than what you think. This is what the article is geared towards.

Why Women Value Vulnerability

Why do women tend to form deeper bonds with their female friends than men do with their male counterparts?

Pioneering neuropsychiatrist Louann Brizendine, M.D., brings together the latest findings to show how the unique structure of the female brain determines how women think, what they value and how they communicate and how they fall in love.

Empathy is really important to women, this is how they relate to men. It educates women about themselves and helps men live with an open heart.

The number one thing that I am going to cover is social behaviors in relationships. Why women value vulnerability, and more importantly, why men must read this altogether magnificent book.

I had a lot of great fun discussing this book with some girls that I talk to consistently. They sometimes ask why I listen to this audiobook. I tell them, "It reminds me that women are from Venus and men are from Mars."

Brizendine distills her research studies on the female brain and has so many sections of this book that I am only dissecting a few sections.

What does that mean Adam? You aren't reviewing the entire book? What gives? I thought this was a full book review. What's the purpose of this article then?

Fair question, so here's what I will say to you...

Female Brain Book Addresses What Men Neglect

“In a breezy, playful style, Brizendine follows the development of women's brains from birth through the teen years, to courting, pregnancy, childbirth and child-rearing, and on to menopause and beyond.” —Deborah Tannen, Washington Post

Here's what men neglect, that is just simply having social intelligence.  One can call this social calibration, they are both very similar. 

The Female Brain Book addresses what most men neglect and here's what most men don't understand...

That is deep rapport is required in long-term relationships.  Deep rapport is such a MASSIVE topic that I even cover in my own hardcover book, 77 Ways to Develop a Masculine Mndset.

Female Brain Addresses The Female Perspective

If you want a satisfying answer on understanding women, it will be an eye opening account when you realize the sex differences between men and women.

Thoughts about sex enter a woman's brain once every couple of days but enter a man's brain about once every minute.

What men neglect is to study these topics so they can appreciate women much more instead of staring at them like a fucking weirdo and often behave low value with a taker mentality.

A woman knows what people are feeling, while a man can't spot an emotion unless somebody cries or threatens bodily harm. In the mind of girls, they look out for each other.

Here are some healthy practices to show women you are vulnerable but not weak:

  • Share hard experiences that you've been through but it did not break you.

  • Never have a victim mindset when telling vulnerable stories.

  • Imply that you have female friends without bragging about it.

This book sold nearly a million copies and you will learn a lot about human behavior. You will learn about early stages of a woman's life.

Louann Brizendine M.D educates women about themselves, but more importantly, why they seek external validation consistently. Which leads me to my next point...

Women Love Male Attention

"It's bloody brilliant... It's answered not only the questions that have plagued me for years, but it's answered questions I hadn't even formulated yet." — Huffington Post

This is one of the biggest takeaways from the entire book that I really must tell you the reader.

One of the biggest takeaways that I got from The Female Brain Bookyou will get you to realize that most, if not all women value male attention.

Female Brain continues to give men extremely valuable information about why girls are externally validated. Women remember details that men forget. Which I've hilariously been called out on consistently.

What I can appreciate about The Female Brain, is you learn all about a women's fears of abandonment, fear of conflict, and even a fear of social discomfort. 

The female brain is mainly influenced by estrogen, oxytocin and dopamine when it comes to bonding, while the male brain is mainly influenced by testosterone, vasopressin and dopamine.

The Female Brain in Love

"Falling in love is one of the most irrational brain states imaginable for both men and women. The brain becomes illogical. It is an involuntary state." -Louann Brizendine M.D

And this is why I strongly encourage you to read the whole book to understand, "The Brain in Love."

It's extremely valuable to learn about what Louanne Brizendine has found in that particular section.

When a woman is in-love, you find out quickly through stories of couples that Louanne talks about is how women are like when they are in-love with a man. 

This is the section that REALLY opened up my eyes. Love is a chemical in the brain my friends. And it can be addicting so you must know that if you find yourself in-love with someone.

This is why I state consistently in my dating and attraction articles that attraction is not a choice.

This is also when women want male attention the most. And this is why you must understand empathy and how to show it properly without turning in to a supplicating pushover.

Differences Between Men and Women

"Ideally, readers will sift through the case studies, research findings and scientific conjectures gathered in this non-technical book and be intrigued by some while questioning others, bearing in mind the caution that hormones and brain structure play a role in gender differences but are not the whole story." Sarah Hrdy , author of Mother Nature Daniel Goleman.

Here's what we can bottom line from the book without going to the weeds on what Louanne Brizendine covers:

  • Women have 11% more neurons in brain areas for language and hearing than men.
  • Emotions and memory formation are bigger in women.
  • Women are better at expressing emotions and remembering details of emotional events.
  • Men remember as well only when the amygdala is activated (if fear and danger are present).
  • Women have better social skills and emotional intelligence than boys.
  • Women have more ups and downs than men.
  • Men will go quicker from 0 to a fight while women tend to defuse conflict.

There is much more where that comes from. Like I said, this book goes in great detail. Any of you women that stumbled across this article...

You'll get words of affirmation and learn more about yourself reading this book.

Empathy in Relationships

"Empathy is what makes the female brain superior for communication and emotional tones, it plays out early in a woman's life." -Louanne Brizendine

I just dropped a podcast in which I interviewed Hannah Spanke a second time on Spotify, the topic being about vulnerability in relationships and I remembered something that I wrote about in my own books after the interview...

That is this book describes why empathy in relationships is extremely important.

There's a balance that you must understand. Even though my blog is mostly based on masculinity, empathy is what keeps relationships healthy.

The good thing about this book is showing that sex differences are not inequality, but just the reality and nature. Nevertheless, the book isn't actually about the female brain but about the female hormones.

Why I Personally Recommend Female Brain Book

"This book not only helps you understand the opposite energy polarity, but it has research studies to back it up. More importantly, you learn about the teen years of what girls go through with peer pressure. This book also strengthened my relationship with women." -Adam Skoda, Author of 77 Ways to Develop a Masculine Mindset

I cannot recommend this book enough to anyone who stumbled across this article.

Here is my number one takeaway to you the reader as to why this can help the average player...

You are improving your game when you understand women. You are improving your game when you understand empathy. 

Start putting yourself in women's shoes more often. Think about why they look out for their own well-being. This book claims to cause men a serious case of brain envy.

It did not do that for me. It amazed me how many years Brizendine wrote this book and took a lot of time to get it published.

More importantly, I'm reminding myself how much this is very important to demonstrate vulnerability properly.

Some of you know that I don't like being open, especially my fan base of the Masculine Mindset Show already know this. However, you must get used to the fact that girls want to FEEL understood.

I've referenced this book in my own work and there is a damn good reason. You can't just ignore understanding a woman's reality.

The Takeaway 

“Finally, a satisfying answer to Freud's question, ‘What does a woman want?' Louann Brizendine has done a great favor for every man who wants to understand the puzzling women in his life. A breezy and enlightening guide to women—and a must-read for men.” —Daniel Goleman, author of Social Intelligence

These are some of the reviews many people have stated about The Female Brain Book. Having healthy relationships is extremely important and in my mind, this book can be dissected in to ten reviews or more with how much is in this amazing read. 

This New York Times bestseller has been translated into more than thirty languages, has sold nearly a million copies between editions, and has most recently inspired a romantic comedy starring Whitney Cummings and Sofia Vergara.

However, I can bottom line this entire article by telling you the reader...

It's time that you start demonstrating an understanding of a women's reality. This is why I've been studying NLP extensively. That stands for neuro-linguistic programming and in-case you didn't know, this field is all about the mind. 

Why are women more verbal than men? Why do women remember details of fights that men can't remember at all.

The mind is neuro-plastic and it's highly malleable. This is why women are so fucking spectacular.

It's because they are social creatures. Learn to be giving to women my friends. If they take an advantage of that, that's when you set those strong masculine boundaries.

However, the point is to tell you that women understand language down to a tee. They understand social cues, nonverbal communication, and are much more socially intelligent. 

You can learn how to understand women much better when you check out this book.

I know this isn't a review of the entire book, what I want you to conclude is that empathy and authenticity is how women read you. 

This book is no exception. Rated 9.5 out of 10 from an author on a book about masculinity.

Half a point down because sometimes it can get extremely intellectual read to the average person and it takes some social intelligence to understand what Louanne is saying.

This New York Times bestseller has been translated into more than thirty languages and  has sold nearly a million copies, and has inspired a romantic comedy starring Whitney Cummings and Sofia Vergara.

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