In this article, we are talking about success and why success loves speed, and I’m going to test your masculinity by making you uncomfortable. You’re going to find out why all of your excuses are lies.
I’m going to smack every fucking argument you’ve ever had out of your mouth on why you aren’t taking action and how you can become more masculine in today’s pussified society.
I am going to be extremely raw, blunt, and over-the-top. So my friend, I mean everything with tough love as in I care about your progress in your fitness and dating life.
First off, how many women have you approached this past week? If it’s any number below 20, you’re not approaching enough women.Â
Secondly, have you went to the gym and started lifting weights? And have you focused on how you perform the repetitions instead of focusing on avoiding the pain of how it burns your muscles? Also have you done a good HIIT training routine?
If you’ve answered no to any of the questions (not sorry to say this) you are being a little bitch. No, I mean that. Dude, what are you doing? Like really, what in the literal fuck are you doing?
Like I said, this is a tough love article, if that’s too much for you to handle, then don’t read this.
I’m not holding back. Throughout my years of training men and women, I heard so many bullshit excuses and this article most definitely will make you uncomfortable and you are going to find out why success loves speed of implementation.
Why Excuses Turn You In To a Coward
You my friend have made excuses. Don’t lie about it, don’t try to avoid it, don’t even try to tell me, “oh but my excuses are different.”
My friend, you cannot be successful in fitness if you have one excuse! I told you already, this post will make you uncomfortable.
Believe me, I have literally made every excuse about 13 years ago when I was going through depression, I had this high anxiety and I thought, “working out cannot get me out of this funk.”Â
I know what you’re thinking, “I have kids, I work 3 jobs, I have too many responsibilities.” BULLSHIT. I’m calling you out. If you cared enough about your health, you’d be willing to wake up earlier than your kids to workout.
Why am I calling you out? Because I care about your progress. When I was going through depression, I thought to myself, what can working out do for me? I just fucking pulled the trigger and made the decision to workout by imagining a woman putting a gun to my head (which is one of the persuasion techniques) that FORCES action!
Here’s what happened, when I got my head out of my ass, I realized that I made working out to be harder than what it actually is.
I realized that I in fact was a coward. That takes character. To truly admit to yourself when you’re being soft.
The real question is, have you gone soft? Have you stopped working out? And if so, why did you stop?
Have you thought to yourself, ‘working out can’t help me’ and continued to be a victim of circumstance instead of being responsible for your health?
The only way that you can pull the trigger and take action on your health is to invest in your health. I want you to buy organic meats, buy sweet potatoes, buy VOSS water, buy eggs, and lastly, stop eating fast food.
This type of water has zero BPA’s. And as I already told you, it’s proven to boost fast testosterone. You’ll feel better once you consciously work on your health and improve your masculine energy.
I’m here to help you see why you’re not seeing results. Partially it’s YOU. Being responsible for your health is a step in the right direction.
But side stepping it, is going to stop your growth. The faster you take action, the faster you see results.
Don’t piss me off and be irresponsible of your health. What you resists always persists.
It’s time that we address why you must have a masculine mindset in all areas of your life.
What is a Masculine Mindset?
Ever since I started in fitness and learned pick-up, I realized something that is extremely important that ties in to all areas of life, that is having a growth-oriented masculine mindset.
So what is a masculine mindset? It’s a towards-driven mindset! It’s going towards goals without wasted time. It’s the mindset that all highly successful people have.Â
So that is to say, you must have a healthy mindset in all areas of life! It’s about being decisive and taking action in-spite of fear. That means to say, a masculine mindset requires the courage to fail.
That’s why you always hear people say ‘fail hard,’ ‘fail forward,’ ‘fail quickly’ comes from. A masculine mindset doesn’t give a fuck about failure, it just wants to act despite what people say and do.
I will tell you a quick story to back this up, I remember applying to probably 50+ gyms because I knew my worth and how valuable my trainings are, and there were SEVERAL gyms that said, “We’ve decided to move forward with another trainer.”
I’ve heard that more than what you think my dude. It was annoying, frustrating, and I sat down in my car and hit the steering wheel out of anger as the horn beeped. I still kept applying, I didn’t fucking stop.Â
And this is what separates the non action-takers between the action-takers. It’s the discipline to not fucking quit. One of my coaches taught me “when going through hell, keep fucking going.” Shout out to Mark Sing, you’re a champion.
This is very important, why? Because how the fuck can you succeed when you are cowering at everything people say to you? I really had to look deep in the mirror at myself and do the same thing, I had to self-evaluate and push through hard times.
What does this mean for you? My friend, it means you have to be willing to get uncomfortable and fail A LOT. Honestly, it blows my mind how many people I’ve seen give up in the fitness scene. You have to be willing to workout on the days you don’t want to.
It means that you have to choose to live decisively and take action on your goals. Masculinity goes towards it’s goals without wasted time. I cannot emphasize that enough.
“Decisiveness is a characteristic of high performing men and women. Almost any decision is better than no decision at all.” -Brian Tracy
The True Test of Masculinity is How Decisive You Are
If you want to achieve your fitness goals, you must live decisively. If you want to lift bigger, you have to add weight. You can’t be afraid of lifting heavy. If you are a runner, you have to train for long distance speed and do HIIT training.
You see, this brings up a memory of when I trained athletically for track and field years ago and I remember what my coach taught me, that is “the work doesn’t start until you feel dead tired.”
Let’s say for example you are an athlete. You have no fucking choice but to live decisively. Why? Because athletes are constantly taking action, they know speed of implementation is critical for progress and getting better at their sport.
If you want to learn any sport such as soccer, or let’s say you want to become a starter in football, doesn’t matter, they all have to practice. This is the mindset you want to have. Athletes naturally understand this.
Think of everything in life like practice. In order to master a skill, you practice.
All that aside, even if you’re not an athlete, it doesn’t fucking matter, you want to practice getting better in fitness. You don’t want to be indecisive, because then, you look like a fucking coward.
I hear this comment coming from people when I talk like this telling me “Why are you rude?” I told you already, this article will make you uncomfortable.
It would be wise of you to live decisively. Why? I fucking told you already, I’ll rephrase it so that it sears in to your brain.
YOUR WORD IS YOUR MOTHER FUCKING WAND.* When you don’t take action and decide to improve yourself, you lack integrity.
You’re not flaking on anyone but yourself. So if you write me saying “What’s your deal Adam? Why be so goddamn rude?”
Because I’m getting you to actually look in the mirror, who do you see, a masculine action-taker, or an indecisive wimp with no backbone?
“Your word is your wand.” -Florence Scovel Shinn
Women Love Decisive Men and Are Turned Off By Indecisive Men
My friend this one is big. I’ve been with many women that have told me, “I hate wishy washy men that can’t make up their mind.” If you are indecisive, you are being feminine.
I’m about to call you out again. When you’re indecisive, you are in your feminine energy. Don’t take this out of context. I’m referring to feminine energy in MEN, not women. This is why we are in a society full of weak men.
Women are supposed to be feminine and that’s what makes them so fucking cute. They are designed to read your decisiveness did you know that? When you’re indecisive, you put them in the masculine role.
They can spot an indecisive man THAT FUCKING FAST. And they ‘next’ you immediately. “Bye, see ya later.” But when they meet a decisive man, they see him as a man they can follow and trust in his masculinity.
I remember this story like it happened yesterday. One of my previous partners told me “it’s super refreshing that you plan out dates, you have know idea how many men take forever to make up their mind.”
Till this day, I always plan out dates. You’d be wise to plan and prepare where you want to go. When a man knows what he wants to do, it’s hot and extremely attractive to women.
TASK YOU MUST DO TO DEMONSTRATE DECISIVENESS
PLAN AND PREPARE DATES IN ADVANCE
You Must Take Fast Action Because Success Loves Speed
I cannot stress this enough. If you stop taking action, you’re overthinking and that puts you in your head.
Start take action more often. If you have goals, buy a schedule book, and make it a game plan to achieve all of your goals.
Dude, women must come secondary. Why? Because when you want to spend too much time with a woman, it puts you in your feminine energy.
I’m in a relationship currently, this is how I recharge my masculine energy after spending time:
- Write down all of my goals
- Lift weights five days a week
- Talk with the community of brothers every Sunday on Zoom (ACCOUNTABILITY GROUP)
- Take action on the days I don’t want to workout.
This is just an example, but YOU my friend do not ever want to put her on a pedestal and give her the power to influence your actions. BE INDEPENDENT! Women want to know you can be independent in relationships!
This is exactly why success loves speed of implementation in all areas of life. You have health, wealth, and relationships. Set goals in each category and fucking go for your goals!
Rejection Means You’re One Step Closer to Success
I want to really hammer this point home..
Stop taking rejection so fucking personal. I want you to take rejection like a fucking man.
Why? Because when you are affected by rejection, you are way too much in your feminine energy.
Look I get it, I told you already, I was rejected by 50 plus gyms. I was also rejected by a lot of women.Â
So I really want you to start being more focused on your path.
Follow your own lead as I’ve said many times on my blog because rejection is all about how you handle it.
Put your focus on the effort, not the result of getting a phone number. Don’t be outcome dependent.
The same goes for if you’re an athlete. I’ll share with you one of my all time favorite quotes by one of my favorite coaches…
“Eyes on the field, not the scoreboard” -John Wooden
Summary
This is the biggest learning lesson I can give you my friend and the point to this entire article is your excuses are like poison to your goals. You have to stop being afraid of failure.
If you fail, move the fuck forward or you look like a coward. I know you’ve been slacking on your fitness goals. I also know you’ve been slacking on your social life.
Why else would you be in your head so much being worried about what other people think of you? That’s exactly why you aren’t approaching women. I’m certain that’s the reason.
I’m also sure that you have stopped working out due to circumstances. Wanna know something? I discovered the truth of rejection and how to beat it for good.
You do that by becoming a Higher Status Alpha Male that doesn’t take any shit and can be decisive to make his goals happen. Being successful requires you to level up in every area of your life!
Just decide to live the life you’ve always wanted and go for your fucking goals because no one is stopping you but yourself.
The human mind is really fucking good at making excuses. When you come up with one, you’re not committed.
Instead of living in your comfort zone, choose to take courageous action and live decisively to make all of your goals happen. I want you to come up with a plan to better your health and your dating life.
Buy a planner and write down your goals. That is a step in the right direction. Sitting on your ass hoping for a better life, you don’t get a single goddamn goal done!
This can be the most beneficial item for you to buy. Decide to live the most epic life of your dreams. It’s all within your power. Be the man that you are meant to be. No one can do that for you but you.
I want to personally thank one of my mentors Craig Ballantyne. This article is inspired by him. Very successful business man.
This is why I said that all successful people have a masculine mindset. Craig, Bedros, Jason, Jon Anthony and other entrepreneurs understand that success loves speed of implementation.
They understand that it takes effortless discipline to achieve goals and get more done in the amount of time they have.
Consult with me here one-on-one. And stay disciplined to make your goals a reality. You got this, let’s go!
If you guys have any questions, comments, or concerns, feel free to leave one below.
And as always, I’ll see you legends next time, TAKE FAST ACTION, my friend!
Stay in it, don’t give up, you are a legend in the making you handsome stud 😉
