Why Society Doesn’t Want You To Be Masculine

This will be one of the most controversial articles I’m writing yet, however, you must understand why society shames masculinity and why they want you to be feminine.

If you really think about it, society has frame controlled you on how to live your life. It’s sad that I see so many men become wishy washy, indecisive and easily manipulated.

On one end, you have traditional masculinity, on the other end, you have toxic masculinity. Mental health must be addressed due to how many young boys being emotionally emasculated.

You watch the news and all you hear is how men are “rapists” and all of the hate crimes are due to men being too masculine. This is where I strongly disagree with society and why I wrote this article.

It’s time that I teach boys how to become men. And that starts out with you all understanding that you never want to cause harmful behaviour in your masculine traits.

Society Shames Masculine Traits

In 2005, there was a study done where a psychiatrist Terry Kupers defined toxic masculinity as “the constellation of socially regressive male traits that serve to foster domination, the devaluation of women, and homophobia.”

Quite frankly, this is not masculine in the slightest, I’ll tell you why. First off, sexual attraction is responsible for sexual polarity, which means it does not devalue women, but it does the opposite.

Masculinity turns women on. The issue arises when you go overboard and you are induced with rage. That means to say, you never want too much anger in your masculine energy.

It’s okay to have feelings, however, young men are believing this stupid belief of “Boy’s don’t cry.” This is what causes passive aggression.

And let’s talk about hate crimes briefly. Why would you want to spread hate to anyone at all? Again, not masculine. Spreading hate to gay men or women is not masculine. Don’t do this crap. I don’t condone this toxic behaviour.

This is toxic masculinity and yes, masculinity can become toxic, but so can feminine energy. Both energies can be used immorally.

Masculinity when you go down to it is actually healthy when used with the right intentions. Traditional masculinity involves physical strength, self reliance, and it even involves showing compassion.

Feminists, culture, even mass media links having masculine traits as dangerous. But what’s wrong with being a little dangerous? There is nothing wrong with having an edge to your personality.

Men Have Zero Backbone Due To Societal Manipulation

What is masculine energy? It’s the sheer fucking will to dominate life and make big names. Masculine energy is responsible for assertiveness, decisiveness, taking fast action, and more importantly, it’s linked to power.

This is exactly why men have zero masculine energy, it’s because they either have shame surrounding it.

Society has worked extremely hard to put men in their feminine energy. I will go out to bars Friday and Saturday, and I see men that cannot go up to a woman and talk to her like she is normal without sucking up to her and putting them on a massive pedestal, little to they know, they placed her in the masculine role.

This whole toxic masculinity puts shame in every man’s game to get women less turned on, if anything, more annoyed at the average man who have zero backbone to stand up to them.

I want to tell you something, I wholeheartedly think that the reason for approach anxiety is the result of what the school system leaves out to teach boys on how to talk to girls properly without going in to dip shit mode.

Mental Health Matters in Becoming More Masculine

In fact, mental health is extremely important and little does every man know that simple daily meditation can improve masculinity immensely. Young men are not aware of these success habits that can improve their life immensely.

I will also get people contacting me on Instagram (and these guys are wishy washy on working out) and I say to them, “message me when you sort out your priorities because your health is clearly not a priority since all you do is tell me reason’s why you can’t invest in yourself.”

You have your own reasons, I don’t really care what they are. In fact, I’ve said this on my podcast episode, The Biggest Mistake Nice Guys Make, is they fucking flake.

I’ve heard every excuse in the book. Quite frankly, I think it’s time that you understand this…

The more indecisive you are about your goals, the more you look feminine. Wake the fuck up my friend, you have been emasculated by society and your parents.

If you want true freedom, understand that it’s okay to have masculine traits, and even develop your dark side as I consistently talk about on my podcast.

Women are at 80% feminine energy, and masculine energy 20%. But nowadays, I see masculine traits in women now more than ever.

What Is Masculinity?

There is a fascinating perspective on masculinity that I believe you’ll find very interesting. Plato is a great philosopher that said every man has three parts to his soul that consists of the following:

• Thumos (fire in the belly) *
• Nous (intellect) *
• Epithumia (animalistic) * Anthony, Jon. What is Masculinity At Its Core? (An Ancient Perspective)

So think of Epithumia as the energy that wants to fight, argue, and fuck. And think of Nous as how you cope with your surroundings. Thumos is hands down what I alluded to earlier in this article.

So think of Epithumia as the energy that wants to fight, argue, and fuck. And think of Nous as how you cope with your surroundings. Thumos is hands down what I alluded to earlier in this article. It’s the sheer fucking will to take consistent action because success loves speed.

It’s assertiveness, decisiveness, and extremely powerful energy, because it’s the fire in your belly. You can see why society shames masculinity, because too much power is overwhelming, but the same can be said for feminine energy.

There has to be balance. That means to say, you want to have 80% masculine energy, 20% feminine energy. Nowadays, with the shame that all men have been going through, most men have a masculine imbalance. If you want to maintain masculinity, understand that you must stop having shame surrounding it.

What Society Doesn’t Want You To Know

Masculine energy is what created the majority of everything around you. It’s what brought your parents together. It’s why couples end up very satisfied in relationships.

Society doesn’t want you to know that masculine energy is completely healthy when harnessed in to positive means.

Society shames masculinity because they think it’s the cause of rape and aggression. This is why society doesn’t want you to be masculine or show any masculinity.

But what they leave out is that masculinity is embodying sexual polarity. Women are designed to see a man that cultivates masculine energy. It’s responsible for the law of polarity.*

More importantly, this is what drives relationships and make that spark last long term. And this is why I am in full disagreement of what society has done to you.

When Masculinity is No Longer Healthy

Toxic masculinity is a product of toxic cultures. Just read this article from The Guardian. I want to be clear with you all, I hardly ever listen to Andrew Tate. In fact, you’ll get my honest thoughts on him in my hardcover cover book.

They are showing you the worst of the worse. And they will press on till they make you afraid. It’s why women live in fear because they think men are monsters.

When in reality, masculinity is not about being controlling, it’s about being in charge with non-reactivity.

But I’m here to tell you that you’re not acting like Andrew Tate when you express an opinion on what our culture has come to. In fact, too much anger is emotions. You should know where I’m coming from here.

Emotions are feminine brothers. The idea of showing feelings has been shamed as well. This is why I say in my vulnerable article that men are emotionally emasculated.

Do you see the difference? When you react in a blind rage, it is no longer masculine. It’s too much emotion. As a man, you should be mindful of this and control your rage.

Women Are Evolutionarily Turned Off By Rage

It’s time I talk to you about how triggered you are. Let me ask you something, are you easily angry? Do you get pissed off at the slightest thing that happens to you such as a driver cutting you off?

Are you easily offended? Has anything small ever made you mad? You may hear me come unpeeled on my podcast. However, I often come unpeeled at the average men who are lazy as fuck.

Society shoves this idea of violence down our throats with terrible news. And link it to toxic masculinity. This isn’t helpful for men.

Even take in to personal account what religion tells you not to be masculine. I’m leaving research studies on both sides of masculinity throughout this entire article.

I’m here to tell you it’s the opposite. It’s reactivity, its emotions, which means, it’s feminine.  Stay focused on have good state control as this can and will amplify masculine energy.

Research throughout this article encourage the opposite of masculinity. Emotions in men are not a bad thing. Nature needs balance between yin and yang.

For all of you men reading this post understand that it’s okay to have emotions.However, you can lose control with both energies inside you.

Don’t turn to drugs and take the risk to choose to run to vices if you can’t control your masculine traits.

This right here is Machiavellianism and yes, men must know about the dark sides of masculinity. You’ll learn more about this in 77 Ways to Develop a Masculine Mindset.

We Must Teach Boys That Hardships Create Strong Men

If you’ve ever been bitter towards women, or fallen in to MGTOW (men going their own way) I send compassion and I hope you reconsider your choices.

In truth, men must go through hardships to grow, even must face their trauma head on. Pain is inevitable, however, it’s how you treat others to be better than the next passive aggressive asshole.

You teach people how to treat you, never forget that. Toxic masculinity is a thing, but feminine energy can also be toxic. And you should know that the more you send out violence to women, you should take a big look in the mirror.

Violence (no matter what is justified) always breeds upon more violence. And like attracts like. It’s time you start take in to consideration your mental health.

So here’s the big point, don’t give up on dating, but also remember that it’s okay to be vulnerable.

Spend time with friends, don’t be too vulnerable around a woman, but more importantly, treat everyone equally.

If a man opens up about his struggles (or, more specifically, his mental health), do we allow him to do so? Do we hold space for his vulnerability? Our reaction matters.

If our goal is to end outdated stigma and harsh cultural norms and reverse some of the troubling facts about men’s mental health today, we must adopt a new vision for masculinity that values men’s ability to embrace uncertainty and the risk of emotional exposure.

Society Shames Masculinity With Consistent Fearful News

To an extent, society got a few things right and that is they know how to scare the fuck out of you with toxic situations that happen on the news.

Thats why in my book Become The Alpha Women Want, I give you this task to complete…

ACTION TO COMPLETE – CUT OUT ALL NEWS COMPLETELY

My friend, this is important. You are consistently being exposed to news stories that are toxic. And it’s the what the wounded, narcissistic people are doing to each other.

When you consistently put this in to your brain, you are exposed to what is called the wounded feminine and wounded masculine.

Society shames masculinity because this how they are paid. They want to scare you. The news distorts your perception of reality. Don’t believe me? Read this.

Mean world syndrome is very real, and it’s designed to get you in a constant state of fear. That’s not healthy for your mental state now is it?

Cut the news out my friend. It’s not good for your state of mind. It’s no wonder so many people are constantly afraid of each other. Fear is a powerful emotion. 

That’s exactly the entire point on why I wrote this entire article. It’s because you’ve been shamed by parents, teachers, society, even probably close friends to believe that your masculine instincts are wrong.

Have you ever heard someone say to you, “Be proud of your masculine identity?” I bet you haven’t. That’s what I want for you, be proud my dude! You are a MAN. So proactively show it.

That leads me to the next point and that is for you to start question everything and follow your own lead.

Start Questioning What You’ve Been Taught

My friend, you have to start question what you’ve been raised to believe. Because unless you want to be a part of the herd and a follower of everything, you must follow your own lead.

Start developing your own thoughts and beliefs that are not dictated by society.

Because as you know, society loves to manipulate fear in to everyone. 

I’m here to tell you that what you read on toxic masculinity is designed to scare you and it’s time you start questioning everything you’ve been taught on masculinity.

Everything is about making a pretty penny. You’d be wise to remember that.

It’s a money making business. You are helping society make money when you consume the news. Time to take back your time and reconsider what you put in your mind.

Mental health matters, spending time with friends matters, and getting a better education on what society has done to twist your perception matters!

“Don’t believe everything you think.” Dr Wayne Dyer

Summary: Society Shames Masculinity

Since you are now discovering the truth of why society shames masculinity, it’s time for you to be your own man and learn to develop your own beliefs that aren’t dictated by what society says to you.

Instead, question everything and don’t let societies loud conditioning get in to your head. Tune out the bad conditioning. They want your attention. 

When you give it attention, it rules your life. Give it less attention and the negative news will never affect you anymore. What you resists persists and what you look at disappears.

Be your own man my friend. Masculinity is what made this country whole, it’s what brought our brothers in arms together. 

Think of two people holding a rubber band. That is sexual tension and it’s when men are in their masculine energy (also referred to Yang) and women are in their feminine (also referred to Yin). The more tighter that rubber band is, the more sexual tension there is.

The more masculine you are, the more you turn women on. Put simply, masculinity is healthy when you use it properly. If you have unhealthy intentions, then yes, it can become too aggressive, but so can feminine energy. Both energies can be used with immorally.

So use your masculinity as a means to better yourself, eat healthy, do high intensity interval training, lift heavy weights, and better yourself everyday.