May 19

General Guide to What Women Do Not Find Attractive


General Guide to What Women Do Not Find Attractive

In this article, I am going to break down what I've learned through personal experiences.

I am going to give you to stories back up everything with what I've learned throughout the years on what women find attractive.

Because once you find out what women do not like... It's only natural that you'll fall in to the other side of the spectrum and you'll learn how sexual attraction actually works.

Not to mention, all of these low value behaviors can lower your status and not to mention, this makes you look bad to most women.

Not to mention, all of these low value behaviors can lower your status and not to mention, this makes you look bad to most women.

I am not presenting these findings from just my reference experiences. I am also telling you from other men who used to think it's all about physical appearance.

Women prefer personality traits. You'll come across articles in which I talk about why looks matters. But in this list, I am targeting men that have a healthy ego about their looks.

Meaning, you already find yourself attractive. So don't get it twisted, looks does not always matter in dating. This article is no exception.

Let's start out with your mindset. You must address the inner underlying mindset before we get into the classic bad habits that all men make.

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You Have a Taker Mindset

You won't attract anyone to you with a taker mindset with the opposite sex.

I'll give you an example of a taker mentality, let's say you meet a woman named Jessica.

Things are going well but then you say something like, “so what are you doing tonight?”

I know this might seem like an innocent question.

Inside a woman's mind, this comes across as you are having a taker mentality.

Why? Because when you say this at the last minute, it comes across as try-hard.

It doesn't matter if you have decent physical traits. A taker mentality is unattractive. Period.

Women are designed to read everything about your body language, vocal tonality and eye contact.

I'd suppose that physical attractiveness is different from person to person, like food or sexual preferences.

Most women are turned off with men that create a creepy vibe with a taker mentality.

Women can tell when you're needy for validation and it comes across as creepy to them.

I used to believe pick-up is creepy. This right here is my mistake and I am owning it.

That means anything you say can come across as you are trying to take something from her!

The right mindset is to lead with a giving hand, and expect no phone numbers.

Drop all expectations when conversing with women. Another note to make is don't hate women.

MGTOW Mindset vs Pick-Up

There is a movement called MGTOW that has extremely bitter men in which they hate women or they just refuse to learn the game.

This is a very bad mindset. Those of you questioning this, let me ask you something, since when is it healthy to hate women?

There are a few positives from the movement and that is the self-development aspect, however, since when should you give up on the game?

Let me tell you all something, here's what girls find attractive, that is you address your shitty limiting beliefs on seduction and stop giving up on learning the game.

MGTOW in my opinion are not real men. They are boys that cannot swallow the harsh reality about female nature. Other woman will look at you with a taker mindset.

But wait a minute, don't you have a blog on masculinity Adam, and learning how to seduce girls and have sex? Fair question.

If you guys have stumbled across the Masculine Mindset Show on Spotify, then you should all know that I don't promote chasing girls. Even with my ultimate guide to pick-up published...

That doesn't mean that I fall under the category of chasing potential mates. The truth is MGTOW and PUA both state that you should never place women as your primary purpose.

Sure, it suggests to date women but only on your terms. HOWEVER, I've seen and met men in this movement, they have the WORST MINDSET and assume all girls want money and status.

You're Giving Her Too Much Availability


  • “Are you available tomorrow?”

  • “Are you open next week?”

  • “Do you work next Friday?”

  • “Why can't you answer me?”

This is seriously the fucking worst. If you are being too available to a woman, you will not get a second date. Stop giving suggestions.

Assume the close and say, “what's you're week looking like?”

This is much better than making a million suggestions where it puts you in a position that you're trying too hard to get a second date from a woman. This is what women find attractive.

After she responds with her availability, you want to say this the following:

“Great, let's meet at x,y,z place and 3PM, I'll text you the day of the hangout where we are meeting.”

This shows that you have confidence to plan and prepare dates, and you will get a second date because it adds the element of mystery!

Nothing is more tiring and discouraging than being with a woman or man who needs your constant reassurance.

So I want to tell you a story to drive this point home, my previous partner told me a story when she went on a date with a man that gave her too much attention after the first date.

She said that he told her the following:

  • “When are you open?”

  • “Are you working?”

  • “What time do you have available?”

  • “Are you off work right now?”

Stop this bullshit, you are literally going to push her away if you constantly do this. Instead, be scarce and a mystery. You are throwing her off her inner balance point because most men aren't scarce.

In case you didn't know, player's are scarce. Boy toys have limited availability. If you want short term relationships, start showing girls your time is valuable convey personality traits.

Scarcity is very powerful with women, you come across as unpredictable. Women pursue that which is out of their grasp.

When you make yourself scarce, women actually want more of your attention because it generates a chase. She is going to want your attention. This is called loss aversion bias.

Younger girls often find sexual preferences in men that are with other woman. Especially when you are willing to let her go...

This is much better because she can become obsessed with you if you do this correctly and don't be a lunatic about dropping them.

It doesn't matter what your age is, a creepy vibe no one enjoys. It's better that you are a player. Why? Because player's understand social skills. However, there's some mistakes players make. More on this later.

I want all of you guys to be internally validated. Feminine energy wants validation. Don't forget that.

You're Over-Complimenting Her

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  • “You are sooo beautiful.”
  • “How are you doing gorgeous?”
  • “Girl, you look so goddamn pretty.”

These are examples of over-complimenting. I've noticed a lot of guys do this consistently in nightlife. Especially in the younger age range.

Now here's what I hear all the time from men, they say, “why is it so bad to compliment women?”

It's because when you compliment them from a place of having a taker mentality, she can tell that you have ulterior motives.

How can she tell? It's because of the way you say it and the place it comes from. The goal is to make her feel comfortable, too much complimenting is try-hard.

Girls hate try-hard guys. Take that to the bank. Never try to get sex by giving them all of your availability.

Often VERY hot women are always given the benefit of the doubt so for you to compliment her too much, she hates it because that's all she hears every day.

So here's an exercise I want you to practice when you are tempted to compliment:

Look at yourself from third person perspective and say, “Am I saying this to get something from her, or do I genuinely just want to say it without expecting anything from her?

Don't feel bad about yourself if you compliment them and you realize you shouldn't have. Instead, focus on how you compliment girls.

How To Compliment Girls The Right Way 

Compliment women on how they want to be seen, not on their hotness. Because some people seem to act as if women are somehow universally beautiful, aside from even sexual orientation or anything.

There are, unfortunately, at least as many easy ways to sabotage your sex appeal. And when you compliment girls too much, this lowers your value in her eyes. It doesn't matter if you think you're good looking.

Sexual attraction happens when you don't fully validate girls. It's up to you to decide if she deserves a compliment. So should you compliment girls Adam? What's the answer?

A lot of weird pick-up artists would say "Never compliment girls." Here's my thoughts...

Don't compliment girls on their hair, or their body, or how smart she is. The one quality everyone compliments her on, don't comment on that.

Instead, compliment her as how she wants to be seen, not necessarily as she is.

And never mention "How beautiful she is" as this will always look try-hard.

Of course, many PUAs would disagree. However, you'll find throughout my blog, that I promote working out, not leading a sedentary lifestyle which kills masculinity.

You Don't Work Out and Let Yourself Go

I know exactly what you're thinking, I thought looks doesn't matter. In a way, it doesn't matter if you have a strong frame and a sense of humor.

If you want to have more energy to have sex, I'm telling you, do not overlook physical fitness. A lot of people fall in to this false idea that you don't need to workout to be attractive.

However, this is where it only goes so far. I don't really agree with everything that traditional PUA advice gives to men, working out is extremely powerful and can give you an edgy look.

Another reason why you should work out is because women often test men, not just by saying bitchy comments, they will challenge your physical strength to see if you are what you say you are.

Meaning if you lie to try to impress her that you workout and she challenges you, they will find out very quickly you don't work out.

I'm telling you this to save yourself from being embarrassed. As a general principle in dating, never try to impress a women by lying to her. Also, take care of that body odor brother and don't forget to shower.

If this opened up your eyes, then good because you don't attract the high quality women by being lazy and lying to her to get her attention.

Women want a man that is physically strong. Why? Because it shows strong survivability traits and that you're masculine.

I want to tell you a story to back this up. My previous partner said that one of her exes played video games every day and she went to the gym more than him

She said word for word, “He was so incompetent and lazy, there was a point where I was sooo turned off that I didn't want anything to do with him sexually.”

So I strongly advise you start to lift weights. Or you won't attract the quality women I know you want.

Therefore it shows that you can provide the physical strength to take care of her, therefore she feels safe. When you let yourself go, she no longer feels safe and will start testing your masculinity.

Masculinity Protects The Opposite Sex

However, when you don't workout, it looks incompetent. How can she trust in your masculine energy when you don't lift weights? You come across to her like you can't lift furniture, or anything heavy.

When you don't workout, you are implying to her that you don't have the physical strength to do handy work and pick her up off her feet. It shows you are lazy.

The standard American Diet honestly disgusts me. It feminizes the average man. In relationships, I'm telling you, girls don't want to step in to the masculine role. Here's how to lead women with your masculinity...

If you want her to let go and be in her feminine energy, then you must demonstrate a strong sense of physical strength. 

It can even be said that when women go in to their feminine energy that men naturally go in to their masculine by taking care of her physically.

This is what you want because women aren't supposed to where the pants in the relationship in any way whatsoever!

Give her the power and she loses all respect for you as a man. You must be in the power position because it conveys dominance.

Think of it like this, when you workout and lift weights, you can pick her up and switch positions in the bedroom effortlessly!

To sum this up, working out gives you that bad boy edge and not working out comes across as you have no testosterone to your presence.

You Are Bragging Too Much

1000 Points Will Drop in Attraction If She Notices You're Lying and She Beats You in the Challenge

This goes without saying, you never want to show off your resources such as money to a woman. Start showing your personality traits.

As a general principle in Dating, you never want to impress a woman with assets and values. Meaning, even though I say have a healthy ego...

I don't mean you start showing off your money. Or you show younger girls what you can do to impress them. In fact, younger girls see that as "he is a provider."

Let's say for example, you tell a women that you own five real estate properties and you are a CEO of a business that you own.

That's great, however, if you say it from a place of trying to show off, she is going to get highly un-attracted to you.

Do not tell women what property you own and how much money you make. Let's say you got a great haircut, don't comment on how you love your hair. Instead, comment on how the hairstylist couldn't stop laughing and she messed it up.

Or worse, you brag about how good you are in bed. And how good you are at having sex. Girls hate that shit. Of course, if you have some really cool accomplishment, let the idea reveal itself on its own.

Why? Because this tells her that you've fully accepted yourself and nothing, she says such as testy comments will get you off of your inner balance point.

The clear point is that if you want to communicate your values and assets, you want to show it instead of saying it. This is much more powerful than trying to impress her!

Never Be Pretentiously Cocky When Bantering

Those of you seasoned listeners of my podcast, you know I love cocky funny humor. However, there's a point where girls possibly just don't want to hear you bragging.

There's a time and place to banter. However, females do not enjoy males trying to show off how witty they are.

Show your personality, show how much you love yourself, be a good partner if you are in a relationship. But don't be a clown and talk her tail off. Younger girls may like it.

But as women mature, it doesn't go over well when you are pretentiously cocky. Girls get attracted when you light yourself on fire and get in to the flow effortlessly.

Guys please understand this, in order to get women attracted, you must not be a fucking clown. That means I want all of you guys to not dwell on the best pick-up line.

Authenticity is attractive. Showing who you are with a strong personality to convey masculinity is attractive. You can be ugly and still pull girls if you have a polarizing presence and make girls laugh.

Life is not meant to be taken seriously. It's okay to be slightly cocky when bantering, but one off tone like you try to prove yourself, that's not cocky funny well done. That's shitty game.

So here's the big point... convey cocky funny vibes but don't take it too fucking far like you are trying to get in her pants.

Attractive men can be charming, but more importantly, they let their true personality shine and they don't fake it.

Managing a Rotation, You Verbalize Other Woman

One of the rules of managing a harem of women is to never bring up women you are sleeping with like you are proud of it and it's like the best thing that's ever happened to you.

A guy wants a woman attracted, so what does he do? He verbalizes his rotation. You will keep having short term relationships and it won't last that long.

I know exactly what you're thinking, why can't I tell women about who I'm seeing if I want her to know?

Here's what you say, “I'm seeing other woman.” That's it. Drop it if she asks for any more information.

Humans often want what they can't have. That means even though you told her, "I'm seeing someone."

Way more powerful than to bring up sex after you verbalize other woman. Instead, let it be implied.

Let her mind do the thinking. You'll find that she will think you are sleeping with them if you don't say a word.

Biggest Mistake I've Made as a Player

Brothers, this was my mistake. I've done this and it blew up in my fucking face. The key point, you NEVER  say “We are just friends.”

This is what players do all the fucking time and women aren't stupid, they know exactly what you're up to because asshole's say this line all across the world.

Do yourself a favor and keep certain details vague, because unless you are in a serious LTR that means long term relationship, there isn't much she can do about it.

She'll most definitely ask about it, you have to be disciplined in your ability to set strong boundaries.

The most common thing that men do is they brag about who they are sleeping with. Another massive mistake I've made.

Although it seems higher value to you, this puts a strong red flag in her mind. It's not higher value or funny, in fact, this was not my best moments in this game either.

Get bragging out of your mind. Having an ego in this game while managing a rotation doesn't get you anywhere but hurt women and make them feel like they are being used.

Be humble and have a growth mindset. The universe has been teaching me this valuable lesson.

A good student of pick-up will understand that humility is powerful in this game. I know some of you hear that, you're used to me saying, "FUCK HUMILITY" on my podcast.

Here's the big point, a good student can have a growth mindset and still have a healthy ego. Be a good person. And you will attract good women. Your attractiveness will improve.

Even though I still love cocky funny humor, I know better than to brag when managing a rotation. Instead, focus on giving them good energy.

Surely, I would hope this lesson sinks in to all of you potential players stumbled across this article.

A lesson to myself re-internalized. Of course, some of you might be newbies to this game. It's all good, the biggest point is to show genuine personality and be honest with the women you are seeing. If you are seeing multiple women, tell them. I didn't and it back-fired big time.

You're Energy Comes Across Like You Are On The Hunt

When you are out with friends, this is the most common mistake that all men make, in fact, I can guarantee you that you've done this at least once in your life.

Especially when you rely on ‘liquid courage,' this is when you CLEARLY come across like you are on the hunt. Guys do this way too fucking much. Attractive men are not thirsty.

I recommend that you quit drinking if all it does is result in you being overtly obnoxious and women have told you several times “go away creep.”

Understand that bars is where a lot of women have their guards up because they know that there are men that can't control their impulses when they drink.

Women feel highly uncomfortable when you're staring at them like they are a piece of meat.

Most women feel under threat in when you give off this weird vibe. If you want to be more attractive, stop caring to attract girls.

Honestly, if you fall under this category, I think it's time you take a true look in the mirror and self-evaluate. Be smart brothers, don't be dumb.

Eliminate Any Potential Vices and Control Your Anger

It's time to eliminate some vices if you have no control over your drinking. Also don't use your money to get women drunk. Most women can spot men that do this.

This is what women deal with almost every weekend, especially the high quality women. They know you want sex. They know a creepy person from a mile away.

It's like your a coyote hunting down some food, this is what you look like. Don't have "on the hunt" vibes. This equals ZERO sexual attraction.

This dates back to the caveman days. Women are smart and intuitive. Think of them as a microcosm of the universe. They are extremely intuitive.

Most, if not all humans can spot a creeper. It's time that you stop being weird in social situations. Of course, this takes becoming socially savvy and learning how to read people properly.

Lastly, I would encourage you to not be too aggressive in bars and nightclubs around other men who try to be the AMOG.

Instead be more calm than all of them. Women read your attractiveness on how calm you are in high pressure situations.

For example, if some random dude comes up and interrupts your conversation, it's best to be smart and include him. Most men get mad when this happens. Especially when there is drinking involved.

It's best to be smart, use your words to calm down the situation, "Hey brother, I see you want to talk to my girls, so go ahead, I'll allow it. Surely I'd hope to hear your best pick-up line."

Notice the very subtle frame control behind it. You aren't being a dick saying this. You are showing everyone that you are the leader of your friend group. Smart play.

You Don't See Yourself as Higher Status

If you are just now getting start learning about game, then here's one of the golden rules you must understand when you start meeting women.

When you talk poor to yourself, you come across as lower status. This is victim mentality at its finest.

You cannot expect to meet the women of your dreams when you are speaking poorly to yourself. Women pick up on it and they can sense when you don't see yourself as higher value.

The number one law of fucking states that women never sleep with men that they see as friends and beneath them.

When you don't value your mental state and all you do is feel helpless, women don't find you magnetic, they find you repulsive. In fact, they won't know you're values if you don't communicate them.

So I want to give to you a task to complete (taken from my book on Amazon)

Write Down Ten Great Things About Yourself

Most men forget all of the great things about themselves when they see a beautiful woman because they go in to dip-shit mode and act like all of their dreams came true when they see a model-type woman.

Want to get high status self-love? Here's what you do:

Write Down Why You Think You Are Higher Status

I want you to remember everything that you wrote down, especially if you ever meet a woman that looks like this one. It's time that you read everything great about you so your self-worth is higher value.

Task to Complete Next is The Following:

Write down your standards you want in a girlfriend (and your boundaries) that you won't let anyone interfere with. This is going to help you to stand your ground when someone attempts to break them.

Why is it important to have standards? I believe you know this deep down, I'll briefly explain.

Women will always test you with feminine qualities. Meaning if you fail, they won't find you attractive.

You must have boundaries and values. You also must set those boundaries or women will doubt your masculinity.

Communicating your values is your power move to remain strong in your frame, but you don't want to sound conceited and overly obnoxious.

I'll give you an example of a boundary I set with one of my past relationships:

“I will not put up with your victim mentality. If this continues, I'm afraid this won't work between us. You either cut the bullshit ‘woes me' mentality or I'm out. Don't question me about this, you've done this for weeks. I don't want to hear it. You're not this negative around everyone else, are you?”

Do you see what's being communicated here? If you learn to stand your ground, women often get defensive but as long as you increase your tonality and you remain unshakable in your frame, she will buy in to it.

What's being communicated is you are basically saying, ‘you either stop victimizing yourself over BS, or I'm leaving you, don't question me.'

You Let Women Lead You By Giving Them the Benefit of the Doubt

This is literally the worst mistake and the most common. Men every day give women too much credit and throw everything aside, even waste money hoping that a woman will give them attention.

This only makes you look like the classic beta-male that seeks consistent approval from everyone and the worst part is your externally validated.

You don't need a woman's approval to feel full. You must believe you are enough for a beautiful woman.

I will tell you because I am honest, years ago, I also gave women the benefit of the doubt.

Where did this land me? In the fucking friend zone and you know just as well as I do, this is the worst place to be in when it comes to the dating scene.

If you want results to happen, it's time that you stop putting them in the lead role. I forgive my younger self who was only 20 years of age. I was that average guy who just wanted validation. I learned that masculinity draws validation from within.

I learned through several rejections before I developed my character and congruence by hardening the fuck up and calling myself out to improve.

I turned the tables around. I started telling myself the following:

  • “I Am The Leader of All Social Interactions.”

  • “I Am Assertive and Have Bold Boundaries.”

  • “I Am Higher Status In My Mindset.”

  • “I Fully Accept Myself and I Am Confident In My Own Skin.”

  • “I Am Internally Validated At All Times.”

  • “I Have High Sexual Entitlement.”

  • "My Attractiveness Improves Every Day As I Raise My State Always."

  • “I Radiate Masculine Power.”

I want you to take responsibility, be your own fucking man and lead down your own path and direction.

Because when you let women lead you, this communicates that you are fucking pussy. You know what? I am man enough to admit at a younger age, I focused too much on my body.

In result, I was a fucking pussy. So what did I do? Aggressively self-improve. Guys don't do this. I forced myself in to worse situations.

I got rejected over and over. Then I realized, it's not about having the body of a fitness competitor. It's about looking good enough in your own mind. Without anyone having to give words of validation.

Read the affirmations and notice that you will start to see yourself as a girl-magnet.

This is called inner game, it's where you game yourself to believing you are the fucking shit.

You want to be in the power position when you meet women. Let me tell you why.

When you are in the power position, women can sense it and it's a massive turn-on.

However, on the flip side, when you let women lead, it stabs at your self-esteem as a man.

Women want you to lead them! They want you to know where to take them without them having to say a fucking word to you, they just want you know!

So the next time you give women the benefit of the doubt, remember, this is how women lose respect for you and they look at you as a pushover.

This is why you MUST write down your boundaries and read them over and over!

That is exactly what will get you out of the friend zone, by you tapping in to your masculine energy.

Summary: What Women Do Not Find Attractive

Like me throughout the years, you are realizing that the harsh truth about what women find unattractive are actually easy to solve.

However, it takes a massive shift in your mindset. You must believe you are enough for all kinds of women, especially the 9's and 10's!

This is why you must develop a masculine mindset where you are internally validated.

I want you to access a masculine state of mind where you are highly confident, bold, and assertive.

Women want to meet the man of their dreams and if you simply learn to turn the tables by literally giving yourself the benefit of the doubt and put yourself up on a pedestal, you will hold yourself to higher levels.

Essentially, it is in your power to take note of everything that women are not attracted to and flip the script by viewing yourself as the man all women want.

It all comes down to your mindset and demonstrating higher value internal beliefs. 

By putting yourself on a pedestal, you view yourself as the prize women want.

On top of accessing your masculine state of mind, you will radiate true dominance and power.

The reality you must accept is all women crave men to be dominant. 

And by learning these common big mistakes all men make across the world, you can prevent yourself from making them and Become a Higher Status Alpha Male.

I recommend you check out my book here to develop the boundaries and values of a Higher Status Alpha Male that will stop you from putting women above you.

You will also learn the following:

  • How To Position Yourself as The Man Women Want.

  • What An Alpha Male Really Is and How To Become One Without Changing Who You Are.

  • How To Get In State And Annihilate Approach Anxiety For Good.

  • The Brutal Reason Why Nice Guys Finish Last.

  • How To Pace and Lead Interactions to the Close.

  • Develop a Masculine State of Mind.

  • And Many More!

This is my definitive guide to becoming the confident man you were born as before society, parents, and teachers messed with your head.

You absolutely deserve to have the dating life of your dreams.

This e-book is the missing link that I wish I had when I found out the hard way what women find highly unattractive.

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