March 15

Ultimate Guide To Higher Status Flirting (2024)


Ultimate Guide To Higher Status Flirting

So many guys I’ve met said that they don’t know how to flirt. In this article, you are going to learn how to flirt.

Not only will you learn about the golden rules of flirting, you will also understand how to inject higher status signals in a woman’s mind.

This is one of my all time favorite ways to interact with women, because it positions you as a charmer.

In fact, it could even be said that I got women instantly sprung simply by flirting.

If you want to receive responses from girls, understand that each person you text responds differently.

Look at my how I built sexual tension here, you’ll notice that you can apply verbal game to texting quite easily, especially when you receive responses fast.

Women messaging men first often you see positive signs. But that doesn’t mean you will get results like this overnight.

If you want a relationship, men and women connect through banter and playful vibes. Before proceeding onward, never forget not to go over crossed lines. Respect women’s boundaries.

It’s going to take practice to get to the level of sexual tension, however, flirting definitely creates attraction!

Most men do not take the time to flirt, they just go for numbers when no attraction is built. This results in rejection.

Flirting is hands down the most effective way to build strong attraction so that she can see your personality.

You will figure out after reading this that in order to get numbers that stick, flirting is the missing link.

I’m going to give you rules and advanced levels of flirting throughout this article.

First rule of flirting you must understand, that is you must communicate clarity of intent.

Now, I want to first tell you about becoming higher status. Men and women size each other up consistently to see where they are at on the pecking order.

So let’s get down in to the principles in dating that matter! Flirting is important but never forget that higher status flirting requires you understand all types of flirting.

The main styles of flirting throughout this article are push pull, breaking rapport (which is closely related to false disqualifiers), subtle frame control, and maintaining eye contact.

The first thing you must understand about becoming higher status is the all important principle of leading. Men overestimate making money but girls don’t give a shit about that.

In my fascinating findings of meeting and seducing girls, I found that girls care about your character and how you present yourself behind all those superficial shiny objects.

Remember your strategy depending on each social interaction. Don’t overthink anything, be present brothers. Relaxed body language matters, most people don’t think about their body language.

How To Become Higher Status

As a general principle in dating, women are attracted to the leader of men.

Now to be clear, status is not just about connections, preselection, and power. From my experience, having international options shows you have an abundance mindset and you are non-needy.

Essentially what I’m saying is the goal is not to become the president of the United States. Fuck politics, it causes arguments, no attraction.

First rule to becoming higher status, your mindset and self-esteem must be higher value. 

Why is this important? Because you cannot flirt with women on the level of status if you are only her friend.

To be clear, when you are the leader of men, it also doesn’t mean you are a genuine asshole.

I’ll say this quickly, you can be an attractive asshole, that is you want to be masculine and demonstrate reward and punishment correctly.

The unattractive asshole has a taker mentality and want’s to one-up others for it’s own gain. Often, you’ll find that asshole’s can get girls, but don’t get it twisted…

It doesn’t mean I’m saying abuse girls when I say that. It means you show unapologetic congruence and confidence.

Simply have healthy intentions when you flirt, not unhealthy intentions. Intent defined is the power of focus and will.

Brother, use common sense because what I am teaching you about is powerful, don’t mis-use this. That’s what you separate you from all the rest of the passive aggressive assholes.

Have integrity, learn to come up with a good strategy depending on who your type is.

So let’s talk about frame control. As you can see in the messages above, I used frame control on my current partner and built sexual interest.

You must understand frame control and having social power in the environment you are in.

Second rule to becoming higher status, you demonstrate a powerful masculine frame.

Frame control is awesome. I’ll briefly describe it. Your reality is number one and it’s very strong.

Don’t let people get in to your frame, have your own instead. This makes you an attractive person.

Frame control is such a deep topic that I have no time to define it. I’ll just cover one element of frame control my friends…

You are independent of the good and bad opinions that people have of you.

Why do you want to have a strong frame? Because this is the essence of masculinity. You show a strong masculine presence when you are independent of people’s opinions.

Flirting behavior varies across cultures due to different modes of social etiquette, such as how closely people should stand (proxemics), how long to hold eye contact, how much touching is appropriate and so forth.

Third rule to becoming higher status, you train your state of mind to feel positively good at all times.

I cannot stress this part enough. Women are don’t want to flirt with the wrong person who cannot be in a good state.

When you are able to control your state in the midst of social pressure, all of YOU gets to show up! 

Be completely calm, cool, and comfortable as I said on my podcast 3 MINDSETS to INSTANTLY Think Like a PLAYER!

Another rule in flirting – be the source of varying good emotions.

People flirt by not always being that asshole who is blatantly confrontational. Men tend to fall in the trap of old PUA advice of being fake-hard.

It’s not about trying to act tough. From an evolutionary perspective, women respond to authenticity and congruence over a fake persona.

If you want a relationship, congruence is number fucking one. Never forget that. Have integrity my friends.

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Demonstrate The Confidence of an Alpha Male

If you want to understand flirting, then you must have the confidence of an alpha male.

You don’t need to fake it either. Simply be in your most positive state you can put yourself in.

That’s why controlling your state is of top priority. I’m going to give you an easy way to develop confidence.

I want you to meditate to binaural beats from Why?

Because it has binaural beats PROVEN to get your brain to enter in a state-of-mind where you are completely present.

I wouldn’t recommend this if it’s complete shit. It also gives you relaxed body language. And then you’re present to the moment.

A study conducted by University of Pennsylvania professors found flirters who can adjust how overtly they flirt will dare day best success. If successful, flirting can dare others to think you are also funny or creative, as well as attractive.

So what’s the point of sharing that? Daily meditation works to bring you to the present moment. If successful, flirting can dare others to think you are also funny or creative, all just from meditating.

When you are present and in the moment, you aren’t so self-monitoring. That’s what you want. If you remember that study from University of Pennsylvania professors found flirters?

It literally proves that rolling off the cuff, saying whatever is top of mind can get all human beings attracted to one another, on top of showing high confidence.

So why is having confidence so damn important? Because girls test you and they see you’re insecurities. If you want to turn women on, it’s time that you show confidence.

When you are confident and you are higher status, they literally cannot affect you, not even their looks.

When girls see a man that is non-reactive in high stakes, and can remain strong in his frame, she literally wants your attention.

Alpha male attention is one of the most valuable hits of validation that a woman always wants. Just check out The Female Brain Book.

Louanne Brizendine found in her research that women value male attention.

When a women is validated by a higher status, confident, alpha male, she gets turned on. Write that down.

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Master The Art of Good Body Language and Eye Contact

This is another important principle in dating and social dynamics, however, there’s A LOT to it.

So let me simplify this for you: Be open, grounded, composed, slow-and-controlled.

When it comes to body language, just taking up space is very powerful.

However, one of the most important point to having high status body language is to be relaxed, not anxious.

You will see that having the calibration to read non-verbal cues is how to read her sexual interest.

The biggest tip I can give you on body language is to simply be comfortable and less guarded in your body language.

Slow Down You’re Movements and Focus on Line Delivery

Be slow, controlled, calm, cool, and collected. Ground your body and take up space. Small talk is great but showing you are grounded is very powerful.

I am going to give you great lines to use, however, it’s really the energy behind it that matters more.

Because traditional pick up lines are useless if you are off in your delivery. Also, I want to be clear. Don’t take expert advice that promises you, “Say these three words and women will fuck you.”

That’s completely unrealistic. Even with the best responses you get from girls, it doesn’t matter. Three words doesn’t make a girl come flying at you. But being high status can and will work to your benefit.

This is why you must work on being higher status to be the most attractive person in the room. Playfully showing subtle facial expressions works as opposed to the lines themselves.

The psychology behind the traditional pick up lines will actively make her attracted and always focus on how you say the lines… meaning have good line delivery.

Just remember that there is no one girl out there for you, and you can flirt with multiple girls at once. This is how to signal interest and not to mention, causes jealously. In a good way of course ;-))

So before we continue, watch this short video, because my good friend Marni wants to help you even more :-))

Why? Because she also has some damn good tips on subtle flirting. 

It’s time to give you my expert advice on how to lead small talk to higher status flirting. You’ll notice cocky funny vibes.

If you want more success in your game, let’s get down to fucking business. My style of flirting is polarizing as fuck.

Flirting with Lauren Hart of the band Once Human

How To Flirt Using Push/Pull

This is called Push/Pull and it’s a polarizing way to flirt with a woman. Check out my Halloween Special podcast to hear the story behind this picture.

This is one of the first and fundamental ways of flirting.

So many times men have been played by woman when they show mixed signals. Make small talk first and then transition it in to push pull.

This is basically you showing mixed signals back at her!

Let’s say for example you meet a woman named Jessica. This is a great push/pull comment you can say.

“It’s been fun chatting you up tonight Jessica.” This is a Pull statement, meaning you pull her in.

“It’s too bad I’m not attracted to you.” This is a Push statement. Now you are higher status.

This can trigger physical attraction if you are not sounding malicious, but you sound witty.

You might see the eyebrow flash from women. They often show subtle signs that they want you.

So it’s time that I introduce to you the power of CHALLENGE. 

Why is it that challenge is so damn powerful? It’s because it amplifies desire on an emotional level.

If you want more success, it’s time you start flirting with girls in a playful way using push pull.

All humans are naturally attracted to the person that which is out-of-grasp. 

That’s why Push/Pull is very powerful in amplifying attraction. This is how people flirt every day.

I’m telling you from first hand experiences, push pull does trigger physical attraction. So start using this in your game.

One of my favorite push/pull statements I used often at the bars and nightclubs..

“You know you’re fun to talk to, it’s too bad I’m not THAT attracted to you.”

Change your vocal tone when you say “THAT attracted to you.”

But here’s where guys fuck-up. It’s when you are off in your line delivery. Smile when you give her that little push.

Honestly, I don’t care if you are a good looking dude. I am a good looking dude. I learned this the hard way.

Women tended to prefer men that can tease her, poke fun, but doesn’t sound monotone. This right here is when looks does not matter in dating.

Put Brad Pitt in the room and he say’s that push/pull line sounding like a robot, it won’t work.

Meaning she won’t get attracted to you even if you are good looking.

It’s time that I give you some more powerful valuable lines we move on to false disqualifiers.

Deliver this next push/pull comment with the person you are conversing with.

“You and I might not get along, but you don’t seem THAAT boring.” Put some energy in to it!

Another great push/pull line I’ve used and it’s worked because I was in the flow state and I meditated..

“You’re name is Hannah? I usually get a long with girls named Hannah, it’s too bad I’m not that in to you..” pause and wink then say “yet.” 

A study day of Florida State University found men who were exposed to pheromones apps by ovulating women were more likely to drink alcohol and flirt with women.

Business Insider rounded up some of the date fascinating findings about flirting, according to social scientists.

Most people don’t like traditional pick-up lines, apps men tend to overestimate how interested women are. That means don’t misinterpret interested women that just want drinks from you. Sometimes they are good at misleading men.

How To Flirt Using False Disqualifiers

False disqualifiers are a step above push/pull because it requires more confidence. When I said meditate, I mean it.

Here’s what I want you to understand, when you flirt, you must drop all expectations of outcome.

It’s all about throwing spaghetti on the wall and seeing what sticks.

I am going to share with you what sticks, but remember, be fun and a challenge.

“You know you have an amazing smile, the fourth best I’ve seen all night. Congratulations on earning the fourth best smile award.” LOL

Did I mention I used this with a lot of girls?

But Hannah Spanke didn’t like that one. Sometimes this can happen.

Remember this important tip – negging only works with women with a massive ego.

Breaking Rapport is Closely Related to False Disqualifiers

“Do you have twenty-inch spinning rims on your car? Because if you don’t, we can’t be friends.”

Mark Sing, you’re a legend for teaching me that one. Smack yourself on the ass.

Do you see how this works? You are falsely pushing her away in a fun and challenging way.

Men overestimate how interested women are. For attractive characteristics depend on gender. Flirting can enhance your attraction. Remember that as this right here can and will skyrocket your game.

But don’t be that weird guy who acts very overbearing and does gorilla game. That requires a full article. A lot of muscular men tend to do that.

Here’s what genuine assholes do, they come in with combative energy.

“It’s too bad you’re not my type because you are too freakin’ annoying.” WRONG PLAY.

Bro if you do this, you will give her negative emotional stimulus. You want to be the source of varying good emotions.

Remember that study from Florida State University? I’m willing to bet you might want to drink alcohol before dropping these lines. But you don’t need it.

Let’s say she’s in med school, here’s what you say…

“I don’t get along with women like you, because I get a sense that you’d prescribe me the wrong drugs. You’re not a drug dealer are you?” RIGHT PLAY. Wink at her.

Now you’re an attractive asshole. You see, attractive characteristics depend on the vibe you convey to women. This is why breaking rapport is powerful.

Nice guys are trained to people please and chase women. Often they are afraid of conflict. If you want international options because maybe you like those type of girls…

Start using playful disqualification brothers.

Example of Breaking Rapport is Playful Disqualification

Let’s say you meet a yoga instructor. And her name is Amy, for example sake.

“Ah shit I can’t believe you’re a yoga instructor, Amy. I don’t think we can be friends anymore.”

She say’s, “Why can’t we be friends?”

You say, “Because I’d hold crow pose longer than you and you’d get jealous, throw a yoga brick at my face and it would turn to be a fucking mess. It’s too bad because you’re kinda attractive.”

By the way, this may come across as cocky, however, it’s when you are playful in your delivery where she gets attracted to you.

Use these false disqualifiers with interested women. One time I used it with a married woman and fuck I might have started an argument because she inched close to me and got turned on, like a lot.

This next scenario is dangerous for massive attraction to the opposite sex. I strongly recommend you use it.

“So Jessica, I just realized something bad about you, even though you’re fun to talk to.”

This is Push/Pull. Did you catch that? Good.

She says “What did you realize? Tell me!”

Did I say Push/Pull amplifies desire? Damn straight, it’s very powerful.

You say, “I don’t think you can handle it. Might be too much for you.”

She punches you on the arm. “Please tell me, I’ll buy you a drink.” QUALIFICATION. This is what you want.

You say, “You have this genuine vibe, but I get this feeling you’re very guarded around good looking men and when you meet them, you just don’t trust them do you?”

This is called cold reading and in my mind, one of the most powerful ways to build massive attraction and from my experience, many girls absolutely LOVE when you cold read them.

Just don’t over step boundaries, you don’t want crossed lines. You get the best responses when you don’t give a fuck.

How To Flirt By Framing Her With Sexual Interest

We are diving in to seduction so now it’s time for you to be fully congruent.

You’ll notice by now why this is higher status flirting. Game requires you to grow and level up.

Life is all about frame control. Look around you, there is someone always leading the interaction.

You’d be wise to watch how people talk to each other, it’s called being frame aware.

The more you notice how people lead others, the better you can lead women. 

For all of you potential partners reading, I suggest you steal this from me. It will strengthen your relationship.

Just knowing this, you now have the power to see frame control is the fundamental backbone of all social interactions.

Remember, this is about being subtle brothers. Subtle frame control is more powerful than being loud like me on my podcast.

“Come on Nicole, you’ve gotta stop hypnotizing me with those eyes. Why are you being so damn seductive in a public setting? It’s inappropriate Nicole.”

Did I mention I said this to a lot of women? Shoot me, I don’t care. I just love it so damn much.

She will something like, “You keep looking at me like that.”

“Nah, I knew you were trouble the minute I met you. If you keep doing this to me, I’m going blush that my cheeks will get so red and it will be all your fault!” 

Many women love this. Some masculine chicks won’t, to be clear.

Blame her, challenge her, make it all about her… This is advanced flirting brothers.

She’ll most definitely test you, “You’re such a player. I’m not doing anything.”

Pass her test effortlessly by saying..

“Please get the terminology right, it’s actually boy toy.” Ha. True story, I was called a boy toy.

If you want to kiss women, don’t be afraid to use these lines as it get’s girls attracted.

However, don’t push for physicality. I’m dead fucking serious. Be socially savvy and non-needy.

These lines are great, but if it comes from a place of having a taker mentality…

You are like most people who suck with girls. Another rule in flirting is drop expectations.

Owen Cook’s fascinating findings from helping so many men preaches freedom from outcome.

I say drop expectations and don’t give two shits about getting sex. It’s all the same.

How To Flirt With Your Eye Contact

First tip before you advance up to the level of sexual interest. Flirting with eyes makes all the difference.

The subtle flirting Marni The Wing Girl consistently talks about.

Go up to a mirror and practice your eye contact. Yes, stare at yourself. I mean that.

Be comfortable in your sexuality. Show sexual comfort.

Get yourself in a sexy mood. Let me tell you something, states are contagious, it’s literally been proven.

Do me a favor and say “You are a high status legend.” Give yourself sexy facial expressions.

Your eye contact is of top priority. Don’t look around anxiously. You look like a spaz when you do.

In order for this to work, you must accept your sexuality fully. Don’t have shame surrounding it.

Now this is where I tell you about pacing and leading. LISTEN UP!

I am not responsible for you dropping this at the wrong time.

You have to learn to read her interest and disinterest. Quite frankly, I’ve witnessed women get mad.

Why do they get mad? Because I saw guys get too sexual too soon. Stop this crap.

Pacing & Leading is Higher Status Flirting Well Done

Another important rule in flirting – screen for her attraction signs.

Here are a few, touching her hair, licking her lips, feet pointed to you, and attentive eye contact.

Pacing is powerful, it gets her to feel understood by you.

Here’s what you say, bear in mind, this takes having congruence and social calibration.

“You seem like a woman with a very high sex drive…”

Stay quiet. Show sexy facial expressions and let the tension build.

Then if you have compliance and she agrees. This is called a micro-comittment. Now you start leading after pacing…

“You love it when a man that can take you through this amazing experience where you can let go, be feminine, and trust in his lead…” Say this to girls that show sexual availability.

“I’m here to tell you that you can have that experience, but we need to find you a man first.”

This is called a takeaway and believe me, it’s extremely effective. You are now attractive person in her eyes.

When you pace her reality, you tell her more about herself that she can verbalize.

Take that to the bank and cash the check. Listen to me brothers…

If you want to be the most attractive person in her eyes and see the eyebrow flash and dilated pupils, I encourage you to use this in your game.

Bear in mind, seduction is nonlinear. It’s literally unpredictable, it requires you to be in the flow state.

Small talk leads to flirting, and flirting often can lead to pacing & leading. But here’s where guys fuck up.

It’s when they TRY to pace & lead interactions. It must be subtle, not outright obvious. Pacing & leading is extremely similar to cold reading.

Because it’s very slick, clever, and when done right, you can seduce her and get laid easily.

But remember to not get frustrated if it she tests you and says, “We are not having sex tonight.”

Instead, blame her for having a dirty mind and pass this test…

“You know, I was going to say the same thing back to you but clearly you’re the one who thought about sex first.”

How To Flirt With Unapologetic Congruence

How To Be A PLAYER That Drives Women WILD!

This is where everything comes full circle. It’s time for you to be congruent and brave.

Here’s a secret no girl will ever tell you…

Ovulating women often go out to bars more often than what you think. They turn on their mate selection process. They screen for that person who can bring out their naughty side.

One more secret most girls wouldn’t want me revealing to you…

They don’t mind having one-night stands. In fact, many girls often have chemicals released from their body that contributes physical attraction.

What does that mean? These chemicals released are pheromones. It signals a mating switch in their mind.

What’s the point to bring that up? It’s simple, interested women can smell your attraction. Mind sound fucking crazy, but there is a reason they are so fucking good at spotting a beta-male.

Alright, enough talk about that. I want you to start playfully showing unapologetic congruence.

Why? Because you have to understand that all of game is literally you becoming your highest self. 

I want you to start being prepared for guys to come up to the woman you’re talking to.

Why do you want to be prepared? Because it shows you are unafraid of conflict. 

Do it when you know she can take a tease. Interested girls will respond well to polarization. “Hey man, how do you feel about women who fart silently? Because I have an intuition this one is perfect for you.”

Again, this might come across as being a jerk to some of you…

But my reference experiences from using that, I can confidently tell you it works. Just be indifferent about the situation.

If the guy stay’s there, extend your hand out and say this…

“I’m just kidding man what’s your name?”

He will obviously respond. Now, here’s how to dismiss him…

“Look you came here interrupting us, and I sure you have something good to say.”

Bro, I want you to start snapping women out of their trance when they stare in to their phones.

“HEY! YOU! I want to ask you a quick favor, can you watch my phone? Don’t go through it, you won’t be able to handle what you find in there.”

I literally have done this more times than I can count. Then I realized that these openers were ten times better than what most dating coaches say.

Why is it better? Because it’s unapologetic, it’s high risk, high reward. Interested women tend to respond to High Status Alpha Males.

You know how to get congruent? You talk to her with confidence and comfortable body language.

Next scenario, let’s say for example, you don’t drink. You have to own it and be congruent.

For example, women tended to say to me, “are you that boring that you don’t drink at bars?”

 “Listen I know you want to get me drunk and get me in to your car, but relax, it’s not happening.”

Now here is where I want to suggest to you to be unafraid to be polarizing and correctly display vulnerability.

You talk about how male sexuality nowadays is incongruent as fuck. Yep I just went there. Don’t feel uncomfortable in your sexuality brothers.

“So Jessica, I take it your very annoyed of meeting guys that just doubt themselves. It’s like they’re ashamed of what they want in the bedroom.”

“Yeah, a lot of men are definitely like that.”

It’s time for you to change her state from flirty to seductively vulnerable.

“I know it’s not the most manly thing to say this, but it’s my responsibility to be fully open with you.”

Here, this is your time to pause and let the tension build. Dropping this next line will change her state.

“It all starts with knowing yourself. And knowing what it is that you want. Sometimes I like to take a break from the dominant sex, and have deep, loving, emotional sex.”

You do realize that being unapologetic requires that you be brave right? It’s taking action in spite of fear.

Learn to conquer your fears brother’s. People flirt effectively when they are socially fearless.

Have a sexy tonality and show sexy facial expressions.

All of you potential partners reading, understand that flirting can fix that stale relationship.

Rule in flirting – People flirt by initiating touch to express interest.

This is by far the most important part of flirting is your touch, on top of having strong eye contact.

You see, the way this sequence is played out is you must make sure she’s invested and attracted. 

Summary: Higher Status Flirting


As long as you are sexually comfortable and you are fully congruent, you won’t creep her out. Just state your intentions in a comfortable way.

And I want you to slowly work your way up to the more advanced levels of flirting, because stating your intentions doesn’t mean that you get sexual super fast. Have common sense.

Read her attraction levels and start out with push/pull when you see interested women. Then as she gets hot for you, it’s time for you first just communicate sexual intent with your eyes.

This is how to screen her for disinterest. If she’s not in to you from the flirting you’ve done, let it go man. Like I said be independent of the good and bad opinions of others, it’s all good.

Now that you know the levels of flirting and the rules of flirting, it’s time for you to take action. Start flirting with women. Don’t want to be sexual so soon? Take out the touch element of flirting.

But if you’re ready to advance in your game, I recommend you utilize the power of kino touch and flirting with her with your eyes. Then start flirting verbally when you see she’s invested in you.

Women want to feel your masculine presence, that is to say, you demonstrate a powerful masculine frame effortlessly.

Remember, being a playful dick is better than being a genuine asshole. There’s a difference. Often, genuine assholes have negative energy. Playful cockiness is much better than being malicious.

This is why I strongly recommend that you meditate to binaural beats. Because it gives you the ultimate advantage over all of the other guys that try to flirt but you can tell they are in their head. Leave me some comments if you have questions!


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