How To Master Flirting With Your Eyes and Charm Women FAST
After reading this article, you are guaranteed to master flirting with your eyes and charm women effortlessly!
I absolutely love flirting with women and using wittiness to charm them. You are also going to learn how to develop wit.
We are addressing something before proceeding, and that is your eye contact. Important critical component to flirting effectively.
Brother, this is your homework before we get in to the tangibles. Go to a mirror and practice your eye contact.
I want you to squint and say “I fucking love this guy.” Say it with CONFIDENCE!
Why? Because my dude, you won’t know how to flirt with your eyes unless if you practice your sexy gaze.
Squint and look at yourself in a way that you think looks sexy. This is how to communicate sexual intent 😉
The single most important purpose of this exercise is you have to love your own sexy look and develop confidence.
You want to accept and trust yourself fully to be comfortable to flirt with women.
How To Find Your Flirtatious Eye Contact
I have this awesome manual that’s free (in-field tested cold reads and funny lines) where you’ll see a picture of my girlfriend and I giving each other a strong flirtatious look.
So here’s how I want you to start using your eye contact, that is to model what works, ignore what doesn’t.
That means I want you to use your eyes to get a woman’s attention.
But that doesn’t mean stare for a long time. Have common sense, don’t overstay your welcome with your eyes.
Did you know that eye contact is one of the most powerful ways to communicate with women?
Think of it like pair bonding, you are building nonverbal rapport!
This is why I told you to develop your flirtatious look. This will do a number of things:
- It will show the woman you’re looking at how interested you are.
- If you see her pupils dilate, that means she’s attracted!
- When you maintain eye contact, it shows confidence!
So here’s how you find your flirtatious eye contact, you look in people’s eyes.
You’ll find that the more you look in people’s eyes, it will help you get better at holding eye contact.
Like I said, don’t overstay your welcome. You want to be in a good, playful state of mind.
Here’s one last thing I want to mention, do not overthink eye contact as this put’s you in your head.
Now, are you ready to learn how to flirt and charm women effectively?
The Flirtatious Push/Pull Approach
This is fucking awesome and one of my favorite ways to approach a woman cold, it’s very funny and you are going to get a good reaction out of it, trust me on this one!!!
First off, less address your body language. You want to come across like you’re comfortable in your environment, like you are grounded and confident. I want you to CLEARLY be in the flow state.
That means make sure you’re ready to do this. It’s very simple, you walk up to a woman confidently, like you own the place. Now here’s what you do…
- “Hi, I’m >>YOUR NAME HERE<< I’m extremely depressed” (say this next line with a flirtatious look) “You have this vibe about you, like you can help me with my midlife crisis, can you help me?” (Have a slight smirk)
- “Hi, I’m >>YOUR NAME HERE<< I might seem confident on the outside, but I’m actually really shy on the inside” (look at her with seductive eyes) “Stop looking at me like that.”
She’s going to laugh, it’s important you don’t laugh. Be nonreactive. The mixed signals is going to get her interested in you!
Here’s what you should say to keep flirting with her. Stack as the conversation goes on.
“Fuck if I’ve known you’d laugh, I’d say you are trying to make me laugh.”
Make sure you sound witty, not insecure as it can have the wrong effect if your tone is off.
Now here’s my favorite one!
“I’m shy, but I’m kinda intrigued by your eyes. Are you trying to say something? (say it with wit)
What is this, like did you REALLY think you can get away with looking at me like that? You gotta stop making me weak in the knees, they’ll bust off and I will have knee issues and I’m going to hold you accountable!”
It’s important that you have a witty tone of voice. It doesn’t matter what you say, but HOW you say it.
The Flirtatious Psychic
Ever heard of pacing and leading? This is in NLP and it’s extremely effective with women!
I’ve talked about it briefly here, but now I’m giving you different way to pace a woman’s reality.
It positions you like you are a psychic. This is REALLY cool shit!
Future pacing is pacing her reality by talking about what’s going to happen in the future.
Let’s say you chat it up with a woman named Jessica. You two meet and things are going well.
I have to really make this clear, she MUST be attracted to you already before you say this! Don’t say this at the wrong time.
“So Jessica, after talking to you for quite some time, I get the feeling that you are a very confident woman but with big goals, am I right?”
She complies and says “yes.” You want to say “tell me some of your goals, like where do you want to travel five years from now?”
It really doesn’t matter what she says to you. Let’s just say for example sake, her goal is to travel to Europe.
“Let’s say for instance, we both travel to Europe for our fifth anniversary.” (say it jokingly and with wit)
“We are both in Barcelona, Spain. We are walking on the beach as the waves are crashing and we put a towel on the sand. As we sit and eat, these noisy kids come by and they interrupt us. You had to take the food out of the cooler and throw our dinner at the kids.
Look at her deeply and confidently say the next sequence.
Then I start throwing food at your face and the whole thing escalates. Honestly, I don’t know if I can take you on these nice trips anymore without having a food fight. I don’t know if we can continue this friendship with how things keep escalating.”
Say this in a way where it comes across in a funny undertone and have dirty eye contact.
Subtle Flirting – You Don’t Even Want To Know
You don’t even want to know what I’m going to do to you. I want to rephrase that, your eye contact does the talking.
Pierce her soul with unflinching and unwavering eye contact. Flirt with your eyes my dude. This positions you as a charmer.
She will get turned on. Let me tell you a story about this…
Almost a year ago, I took Emily out to Panera Bread, then we started flirting and I gave her a strong flirtatious look.
More like, Emily, you don’t even want to know what I want to do to you.
That was the look I gave her, it was beautiful. I clearly charmed her and it was on.
Wanna know something about that story?
Emily never forgot, she even told me how it seemed like time stopped.
That is why you want to practice your eye contact because I want that for you man!
I want you to start utilizing this look as it communicates strong subtle dirty eye contact.
You’ll realize that when you smirk (while looking at her) that it’s going to increase your chances of her getting turned on!
See that picture above? That’s what she is going to do to you man 😉
Don’t Corrupt My Brain
Dude please use this one, or you’ll break my heart. I’m telling you, it’s so damn powerful!
Here’s what you do, charm her with that piercing ‘you don’t even want to know’ look.
I like to put her hair behind her ears, and then say this, “please stop corrupting my brain with your seductive eyes.”
Then look at her lips and back up to her eyes, it’s called the upside down triangle. Talk about sexual tension. FUCK!
I’m getting excited just thinking about all the times I’ve done this. Believe me, this is good shit.
It’s a strong push by you saying that, and you pull her in by looking at her lips.
Push/Pull that shit to the MAX!
Want to make it more powerful?
Tell her, “honestly, I can’t kiss you right now, because I’m clearly too much for you.”
Some more variations you can play around with
- “Don’t corrupt me, I want to maintain my innocence.”
- “Stop being like that, I want to maintain a clean record for having sex one time a year.”
- “Don’t charm me with your eyes, it’s corrupting my brain.”
Then you look at her lips, time to add the push…
“You’re making me look at your lips, STOP IT! I’m just trying to be myself. I’m not going to kiss you. You can try to kiss me, but I don’t have to like it.”
Is your brain corrupted from too much flirting? Might have to meditate to clear your head after using this one. LOL
Flirting With Sexy Self-Love and Confidence
This section is awesome, why? I love acting a little cocky. It shows your confident, but let me be more clear..
Don’t say this from a place of insecurity because she’s going to test you if you do. Don’t have a taker-mentality.
There’s sexy cockiness and there’s the wrong type of cockiness that comes from ego.
Let’s say you meet a woman at the bar named Kelly…
“Kelly will you excuse me while I go to the bathroom to stare at myself?” XD
When you say “stare at myself” you should sound witty, don’t sound contrived.
One time I said this line at a cowboy bar and it worked like gangbusters…
“I love mirrors.” She asked “Why?” I said to her “Because it communicates all the right things to me, I fucking love myself.”
It’s charming when you can pull this off.
Why? Because confidence is clearly one of the most important things to a woman.
“I really enjoy waking up in the morning, taking a shower using my pheromone soap, brushing my teeth, and taking my morning shit, even cutting my toenails. However I don’t use deodorant. I’m smelly. But I’m pretty fucking fun if you ask me.”
LOL. By the way, my girlfriend loves that soap, no lie. Consider using it.
Do you have the balls to say that? Women want to laugh. They want to feel your strong presence, but also have fun adult play, that is flirting.
When you’re in your head and you think it won’t work, it shows in your body language. No shame in the game my friend.
One time I walked up to a woman at the gym when she took a picture and I said…
“Please tell me that you did the duck face. If you didn’t, I’m going to retake that picture FOR YOU and show you how it’s done.”
I made sure she wasn’t doing big lifts because as you know, I don’t like going to the gym to socialize.
Remember it’s all in good, playful fun. Girls just want to have fun! Tip for you – be self-amused man.
Advanced Flirting – Blame Her, Challenge Her
Frame control at it’s finest right here brothers! You have to make sure she’s in to it, or the interaction won’t go the way you want it to go. That means read her attraction signs.
I’ll list a few, she looks at your lips, then to your eyes. She gives you the “you don’t even want to know” look. Now it’s time to pace her reality once again 😉
“Jessica, I can’t believe you’re making me like you. Not cool. I didn’t plan for that to happen.”
Smirk, don’t smile so big.
“Ashley, you have to stop being so fucking cute, I’m just trying to live my life, and here you go, acting all cute. I see what you’re trying to do but I’m not that easy.” CHALLENGE.
Did I mention when you challenge women, you make them want you? You’re welcome my handsome friend 🙂
“Kelly, don’t be so much fun. I told you already, I don’t date girls I meet at bars. Clearly you’ve proven yourself to be a fun woman, and it’s all your fault that I have a lot going on down there!” Very advanced.
Why is this advanced? Because it’s a combination of frame control, blaming, challenging, and push/pull.
“Don’t be so much fun” PULL
“I don’t date girls I meet at bars.” PUSH
“Clearly you’ve proven yourself to be fun.” Implies you are the prize, which is a very subtle challenge.
“And it’s all your fault that I have a lot going on down there!” Blaming her.
Flirtatiously Misinterpreting Her Test
Ever heard of hoop theory? I may do an article on that soon, however, it’s important you understand that women like to fuck with your boundaries. Now this is a good thing!
It means she’s attracted, so don’t get mad about it, I’ve seen men get mad about it. Get excited because she’s attracted to you!
Let’s say for example she says, “What’s with that shirt your wearing? It’s weird.”
Misinterpret her comment…
“I know you want to rip it off of me right now, but let’s take it slow, I’m just now getting to know you.”
Let’s say she says this, “Why did you order that drink?”
Don’t buy girls drinks when you first meet them. This is a bad mistake. Buy them for yourself, she should earn your favor.
Misinterpret her comment…
“Listen I know you want my drink, I know you want to take it for yourself, and run out of the bar and go to your little girl sniper hideout, but honestly, you’ve gotta stop stealing drinks from all of the charming men you meet. I’m on to your games little girl.”
Flirting With Strong Sexual Tension
Oh snap! We’re getting in to some serious sexual tension with this last one! Did I save the best for last? Yes, of course I did.
Actually I want to tell you a story..
I told this girl I met years ago, I said, “What do you think you’re doing?”
She said, “What do you mean?”
I said to her, “You know EXACTLY what you’re doing. It’s not going to work.” CHALLENGE.
She told me, “I don’t know what you’re talking about.”
I told her, “Yes you do. You are making me like you, I am clearly too much for you anyways. But why the fuck are you doing this to me? Not cool..”
She started laughing nervously. I knew it was on.
She tested me, “why are you acting like a seducer?”
I said to her, “The real question is why do you keep making me like you? You know I’m not trying to like anyone right now.”
She inched closer and said, “Do you really think you can handle me Adam?”
I said to her, “For the third time, I’m not trying to like anyone right now. But I may have to kiss you soon, I don’t have to like it.”
You should ignore tests. It’s actually really powerful. Why did this work in my favor? Let’s go down to the psychology.
Women love a man that can stick to his guns.
That means when they test you (which they will) I want you to be playfully assertive.
Also when you say “I don’t have to like it” that makes it look like she is the one pursuing YOU!
Human psychology, what I am referring to is cognitive dissonance. Women value what they work for!
And did you count how many times I’ve challenged her? If you’ve read my higher status flirting article, you should know, this amplifies strong desire on an emotional level.
That night some crazy shit happened, I’ll keep those details to myself 😉
First and foremost, your eye contact MUST be on-point before you pull off any of these flirtatious scenarios.
So do me a favor and walk up to a mirror and find your sexy eye contact. If you don’t, you won’t be calibrated with your nonverbal communication.
The next step is to incrementally take action, don’t overwhelm yourself with everything I gave you.
Meditating to binaural beats is going to help you immensely. Why? Because you’ll get in the flow state.
Quite frankly, I’d rather have you flowing and be animated with your line delivery than put pressure on yourself to memorize the lines.
Do one thing at a time, I recommend starting with the Flirtatious Push/Pull Approach. Just do that for one week. Then start progressing to utilizing your eye contact. You don’t want to know what I’m going to do to you 😉
Definitely incorporate ‘Don’t Corrupt My Brain’, this was a nonnegotiable when I was hitting the bars regularly. But do yourself a favor and read this book to get the confidence of a Higher Status Alpha Male.
This book is going to teach you how to develop core confidence that all Alpha Male’s have, where you are internally validated, and you are able to access a positive, resourceful state that all women are attracted to!
You are going to learn the following:
- How To Lead Interactions Effortlessly
- Why Nice Guys Finish Last and What To Do About It
And theres many more where that came from!
Don’t hesitate to contact me. I’m working on more big projects.
I’ll see you charming legends later, keep taking action because success loves speed of implementation!
If you don’t take action, I will make you do 50 not modified push-ups!
You can find me here on Instagram for daily motivation.
PEACE OUT YOU FLIRTATIOUS STUDS 😉