How To be An Alpha Male Without Being Fake
I am starting to see people in communities I am in, they are straight talking shit about men who want to learn how to be an alpha male. And this opened my eyes, because I don't agree with everything people say. So here's the caveat to this entire article...
I am the author of the eBook Become The Alpha Women Want, however, even though I wrote that book, the term "Alpha" has been thrown around and people are misinterpreting this term. It's being used as a form of talking down on people.
So, here's the big point, an Alpha Male is a man who simply believes in himself fully. He has a strong frame, more importantly, he knows what makes a man masculine. Now I am going to give you ten ways on how to be an alpha male, without being fake. That means, don't be something you're not. With that said, let's get in to the ten ways to show you are an Alpha Male.
How to Be an Alpha Male is Showing Congruence
The first and most important quality of an Alpha Male is being congruent. That means, a woman for example won't consider you an Alpha if she sees you aren't who you say you are. This is why I hate the "Manosphere" abusing this term.
It's because even people you watch on YouTube, I don't need to point out the people who are doing this because EVERYONE is guilty of it... They show a lavish lifestyle about who they are, then when the cameras stop rolling, they don't own any of the shiny items you see, except a select few people that ARE congruent.
If you are guilty of this you are not an Alpha Male, this is a wake-up call to all you fakes out there who show this high status lifestyle, but then you turn off the camera's and you aren't even congruent with the what you showed on camera.
That means if you fake your status, women see right through this. Cut the bullshit because you are not an Alpha Male. And yes, I will talk down on these people because you can't even SHOW who you are when the cameras stop rolling and you aren't even leading by example. Be congruent, show you are who you say you are.
Carefreeness and Indifference
In my eBook, I cover this term "High Status Carefreeness" however, if we really break this down, what this looks like is indifference and nonchalance.
What you all need to understand is that true carefreeness is you are completely content with who you are, and you no longer need acceptance from anyone.
Stop seeking acceptance, approval and validation. If there is one thing I've learned when I wrote my first dating eBook, that is you don't need people's validation.
This is why you see me referencing The Tao Te Ching, it's such a powerful book, and I'll bring up this quote again... "When you care about other people's opinions of you, in essence, you become their slave."
High Status Mindset
I get a lot of shit from people who say that "You should be more humble," however, this is where I truly don't give a fuck about anyone who doesn't like me saying...
FUCK HUMILITY. It's very simple, if you are proud of who you are, then stop being humble. Yes, this is where I will say go ahead and be cocky in social situations.
However, the only time this becomes an issue is if you try to be impressive. That means you start verbalizing status. If you heard my self-entitlement podcast, I state very clearly, you should never have to verbalize your status.
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That's a clear low status attempt at TRYING to be higher status. And as we know, high status is not the words you say to women, it's how you say it. Its your energy and your vibe behind the words.
That means a true higher status mindset is you know you're the fucking shit, but you keep quiet about it and you let your style, your vibe, your presence, and your energy do the talking. Show your masculine presence, don't tell.
You need to believe you are high status in your own skin without anyone telling you otherwise. A man decides his own value. Never forget that my friends.
Discovering Your Purpose Makes You an Alpha Male
If there is one thing I can communicate since starting my blog, that is you need to get clarity on your purpose.
Write down your strengths and passions. I cannot stress this enough. Without a purpose, you are living a life of quiet desperation and this can be last thing you will ever do as I lost a good friend of mine one year ago.
Joseph Patrick Liverman, I love you brother. This section is dedicated to you. I am getting the chills as I write this because I believe he DOES visit me in spirit.
He say's this same message in his teachings. Find your purpose. Be the man you are meant to be. Joe would be proud of you.
Decisiveness is How to Be an Alpha Male
"Almost any decision is better than no decision." Brian Tracy
I could go on and on on taking action, but as you know, that doesn't motivate everyone. What you need to know is how to be an alpha male, that's what you came here to learn.
What you need to know about alpha male qualities are the following:
- Carefreeness
- Congruence
- Purpose
- Decisiveness
And there is more as well. But let's stick with decisiveness. Brother if there is one quality of all high performing entrepreneur's, they have one thing in common, and it's not just men, it's alpha females as well, that is decisiveness.
In my eBook, I go in to explicit detail on how to improve decisiveness if you are indecisive. I won't go over that because I save that for premium buyers.
All the more reason to show Alpha Male qualities. Start fucking making the right decisions for yourself.
A True "Alpha" Doesn't Verbalize It
Have you picked up on a common pattern in this article? You shouldn't have to verbalize you're the Alpha.
In fact, you need to learn how to get the "it" factor. What I mean by that is you are a natural. You need to understand that becoming an Alpha Male takes inner work.
I cover the importance of NLP modeling and how to use affirmations to believe in yourself on my blog. But here's the issue with affirmations...
You need to fucking believe in each powerful statement instead of questioning it. In fact, when you use affirmations in conjunction with taking action, it works wonders.
The problem with most of you that came across this article is your damn skepticism. Don't get me wrong, it's good to question what you believe.
However, it's not good to QUESTION positive statements designed to improve your self-image. Learn to have a growth mindset.
Change Your Mindset if It's Negative
Those of you that have an inherent negative mindset, this will be hard for you but well worth it if you're up for the challenge.
I want you to go on a 30 Day Positive Self-Talk Challenge because this is going to change your life for the better. Start telling yourself these powerful statements:
- I AM GOOD ENOUGH ON MY OWN
- I AM SELF ENTITLED TO MY MASCULINE PURPOSE
- I AM SELF-VALIDATED
- I GENERATE MY OWN STATE OF MIND
- I AM OKAY WITH WHO I AM
- I HAVE A POWERFUL MASCULINE FRAME
- I AM DEEPLY SECURE WITH MY FLAWS
Those are 7 Alpha Male Affirmations to start out with. And it's not hard to do. Here's why you probably think affirmations are not working...
It's because you say it when you're in a negative mindset. You need to change your mindset if its negative, and when you're in a good state, say it out loud.
Be Okay With Who You Are
Let's say you still have a negative mindset, you read this article and you say to yourself, "Who does this guy think he is? What would he know on how to be an Alpha Male? How would this positive bullshit help me?"
I am going to address something that you need to hear because this might be a shocker to some of you that are at odds with yourself and what you want in your life or how you want to live it.
You need to be okay with who you are. This ties in to self-validation, self-acceptance, and drawing your state from within as the Tao Te Ching teaches.
True Alpha Male's are content in themselves. They are easy going. They are bad motherfuckers, but they control their killer instinct. More importantly, they protect the ones they love.
Alpha Male's Have a Powerful Presence
Most people just assume Alpha Males are misogynistic, and they don't like women. But this couldn't be further from the truth. I love every women I've ever been with.
Just because some of you know that I worked with some big shots in the fitness advice scene on social media, it doesn't mean I am going to side with everything these big shots say.
In fact, I have my own beliefs on what makes a man a true Alpha Male. That belief is the fact that an Alpha Male has a powerful presence.
It doesn't mean abuse your masculine power, it simply means you understand that working out is the gateway to discipline and then you see how much this levels up your confidence tenfold.
But it's not just about benching 500 pounds either. A powerful presence is a man who has the balls to assert himself in any room he can but isn't a fucking degenerate asshole about it. He controls his power and doesn't abuse it.
Alpha Male's Are Polarizing
This right here is in my mind the single most obnoxious reason I've been called a player, a playboy, an asshole, etc.
It's because I've said "No" to girls that want me to buy them drinks. I've said taken drinks out of a girls hand one time and asked her, "What drink is this?"
I've even walked up to a girl with a boyfriend and I didn't even know it. I looked in to her eyes, and I said... "Aren't you adorable trying to stare at me from across the room." Playfully calling her out.
I've even walked my previous partner up against the wall and said, "Come on, you know you like me being a little mean." As I looked down to her lips, then I took away attention.
This is to communicate to you all, I don't even need to call myself an Alpha to do it. I simply raised my state with NLP which is one of the tactics I give away in my hardcover book and then I just took courageous action.
The Takeaway: How to Be an Alpha Male
Can you see why some people get the term "Alpha" confused? They think its having shiny objects. They think it's about having all the money in the world.
But this is where I do not agree with all the big shots that promote having a boatload of cash to communicate being an Alpha Male.
So here's what you need to know on how to be an alpha male, you need to show your resources must be EARNED. Your nice dates must be EARNED.
More importantly, you need to have a higher purpose, show decisiveness, don't tell. Be bold and polarizing, don't be afraid to be disagreeable. And don't be a stupid sugar daddy because that doesn't get you laid.
That will land you in the friend zone jail. And more importantly, women will not respect you if you give them everything on a silver platter.
Instead, be masculine, have a powerful presence and demonstrate through your actions that you are not to be FUCKED with.
An Alpha Male can be cocky as well, but he doesn't shove it down people's throats. Feel comfortable to leave your comments and questions down below.
