In this article. I am going to have a personal serious conversation with you about seven bad habits that are killing your masculinity.
So my friend, this article is going to make you uncomfortable. In fact, virtually all of these habits, I’ve known friends that still do some of the habits that are killing your masculinity.
Also it doesn’t help that there are so many forces in this day and age with propaganda manipulating men to feel bad for their masculine instincts. It’s extremely fucked up.
Do me a favor and leave your opinion of masculinity being toxic at home.
What you guys are not understanding is that with the right amount of discipline, you can control your power and aggressive drive.
It’s when you are out of control where it can become toxic, in fact, it can be said that you’re not masculine. Masculinity is calm.
Which means this is going to make you uncomfortable. But let’s face it, growth doesn’t happen in your comfort zone, it happens when you’re uncomfortable.
The only way that you can actually become more masculine is if you come to terms with what you struggle with.
So if you struggle with any of the following habits, self-awareness is going to increase the chances of you overcoming it.
With that said, let’s talk about the very first bad habit that is killing your masculinity.
Leading a Sedentary Lifestyle
If I were to offer you a cheeseburger or a sweet potato and quinoa chicken salad, which would you choose?
A lot of you would choose the cheeseburger, and this is why so many fucking people are fat nowadays.
As a professional fitness trainer, this boggles my mind.
I used to have a friend that would train at Anytime Fitness, and I would ask him, what did you get for lunch?
And he said, “I stopped at McDonalds before I got here.”
I slapped my forehead and thought to myself, “why the fuck are you giving nutrition advice if you can’t do it yourself?”
This is extremely sad, and I look around at so many people that can’t even touch their toes because they are so damn fat.
Right now, I’m sure you are one of those people. You can either choose to eat shit, or you can choose to improve your diet.
I’m going to tell you something that you probably didn’t know.
Fat creates estrogen, muscle creates testosterone.
Hate to call you out man, but YOU are being feminine if you choose to eat at any of the following places:
- Diary Queen
- Taco Bell
- Bottom of the barrel fast food chains often cause indigestion
Brother, if you want to choose something reasonably healthy and you have no time to cook (which I highly doubt because everyone has the same 24 hours in a day) I suggest you at least go to the following places that are much healthier:
- Aladdin’s Eatery
- CoreLife Eatery
- Organic Grill (NY)
- True Food Kitchen
- The Protein Source
- Any restaurant that is high rated and known to have quality food.
Simply research healthy restaurants. The issue you have is you choose the easy way out and that is you choose the bottom of the barrel of horrible restaurants you should NEVER go to.
My friend, do yourself the favor of cutting out all porn if this is a struggle for you.
You are not being masculine consuming constant porn, that’s short term instant gratification.
And let me tell you something, when you blow out your load, you have ZERO testosterone.
Then you wonder why you have no energy, drive and motivation. I recommend this you read this article.
You’ll see why it’s horrible for masculinity. Believe it or not, you increase the risk of erectile dysfunction.
It’s one thing to masturbate once every two months, it’s another to do it for a constant dopamine hit.
Stop watching porn so damn much. I can guarantee you that you do it because you have a void you want to fill.
Because you feel alone. How about you do this man, learn game and read my book Become The Alpha Women Want.
When you constantly watch porn, you are not in control of your sex drive, your sex drive has power over you.
If you want to have power over your sex drive, you have to learn game my friend and discipline yourself.
And the most powerful way to have power over your sex drive is to control yourself to stop watching porn.
Drinking Too Much
Addiction is a touchy subject so I’m not saying this is going to be easy for you to stop. But I will tell you that you’ll become more disciplined when you stop drinking.
And I believe that when you drop a bad habit, that says a lot about your character. That you will not fucking give up to cut out a bad habit. Don’t just take my word for it, look around you.
There are people everywhere that struggle with addiction. My friend if you struggle with a drinking problem, definitely stop.
So I recommend that if you struggle with alcoholism that you ask for help. Because this is very serious.
I hardly ever drink. In fact, when I would go out to practice game (I always chose to say no to women that offered me a drink.)
There are two reasons why I would do this:
- Saying no to a woman with no negative energy shows you are masculine.
- I cannot stand the taste of beer.
That is to say I have tried a few beers a long time ago and I almost puked. That shit is fucking disgusting in my opinion and I don’t understand why people like it.
Also, to be clear, it’s cool if you drink in moderation. But taking it too far is killing your masculinity.
Now listen man, if you know you have a drinking problem, I strongly urge you to click here ASAP.
You deserve to live a life without having the urge to drink if you struggle with alcoholism.
Believe me, I’ve had family that struggled with alcoholism, it’s half of the reason I choose to always say no when I’m offered any drink with alcohol.
Zero Physical Activity
It’s time I get REAL with you. How often do you workout? Is it any number below 5 days a week?
If you answered “yes,” my dude, you are missing a critical component of living a masculine life.
Every time you workout, your testosterone increases by 21.6 in men and 16.7 in women.
Look at this study for further proof on why weight training is so damn effective for masculinity
Need I say more? Well you know what, I intend to overdeliver and show you that even HIIT will work for you.
You’ll see that when you go through another study done in 2014 that HIIT also increases masculinity.
Brother, I work with men (and even some women) since I am a personal trainer.
They all tell me how much more confident they feel after working with me.
Social Media Consumption
How often do you consume social media? Is it every five minutes where you check the likes on your Instagram?
Brother this bad, in fact, this right here is why most guys nowadays are in their feminine energy.
How much do you really care about your fitness goals if you go on Instagram, Tik-Tok, and YouTube?
I’ll be honest with you, I do go on social media, however, when I go on social media, I check questions that my clients have and answer them.
And I’ll also post content because I have the business mindset of producing content, not consuming content.
As in when I open up my Instagram at MasculineMindsetCoach, I post on there and then I put my phone away.
Producer is you post consistent content to gain a loyal followers, not fake followers.
This is better than you scrolling through social media aimlessly for hours.
And this is what I see at the gym consistently, men scrolling through social media.
It’s one thing if you’re a woman, I get that, because feminine energy is externally validated.
That’s why they take ass pictures, they receive the likes and it makes them feel good.
Now do you see why when you consume social media and you seek likes, follows, and approval that you aren’t masculine?
My friend, masculinity doesn’t need approval from others. You should accept yourself and value yourself.
In fact, you are in your feminine energy if that’s the reason you go on social media.
Masculinity is internally validated, you shouldn’t need follows on IG to feel like you are enough.
This is a surefire way to act like a fucking little bitch. Not sorry about calling you that if you know that you can improve yourself, yet you sit on your ass and you don’t act on it to change.
Consistent complaining is the fucking worst and it kills your masculinity so fast, you will look in your pants and see a vagina.
Dude, do you know how much abundance there is in this world? Look around you, everyone has opportunity in America and if you’re complaining about anything, you are killing your masculinity so fucking fast, the next woman you see will call you “Weak.”
Do you want to look better? Stop acting like a bitch and go to the gym. Do you want to attract women? Stop victimizing yourself and learn game. Do you want a more peaceful life? Start doing daily meditation.
I really don’t know your situation, but I do know what kills masculinity, and that is acting helpless. No one can change your situation but YOU.
Stop acting helpless and stop being soft. You are in control of your life, not anyone else, and by the way, when you blame others for your own unhappiness, you aren’t being cool.
I’m not doing this to be an asshole, I am coming at you like this because there are so many men that complain about not getting their way, yet there’s people struggling FOR REAL over in the middle east.
So sack the fuck up and quit being soft. Go to the gym and start lifting weights, you will feel better. And learn to embrace challenges, that is where you grow.
You don’t grow by sitting on your fucking couch acting helpless like you are a lost cause.
You can be better, you’ve just given up and checked out of life. Get out of your head man, seriously.
I want to really give you a common habit that I know a lot of people struggle with and that is self-sabotage.
This one (in my opinion) can easily be cured if you consciously work on yourself every day.
And this is where I want to be as upfront and honest with you as possible…
If you don’t address this and you know you struggle with it, you can potentially get very depressed.
Although I am a little hard on you my friend (because I know you can address this) I really want what’s best for you.
So don’t think that I’m only calling you out for being feminine, I want you to succeed and live a masculine life.
The only way you can do that is by watching how much you can beat yourself up as this is a disease worst than COVID-19.
It’s a mental disease, and no one wants to talk about it. They keep it private.
And the reason it kills masculinity is because you don’t clear your head and you don’t train your state of mind.
That’s why I meditate and work out every day. And it’s also why I want you to understand that when you clear the clutter from your brain, you will realize that everything you’ve ever thought is only your ego.
Your ego is the conditioned mind and that is where you self-sabotage. Once you realize that, you’ll see that you can quiet your mind just as quickly as you started talking down on yourself.
You see I used to be hard on myself and I am man enough to admit that, I have much more power over it since I’ve worked on myself for over a decade and I practice daily meditation.
The Bottom Line
My friend, if you want to live a more fulfilling masculine lifestyle, understand that these habits you must throw out.
Masculinity is clearly being demonized by society and it’s time for you to be more consciously aware that it’s okay to be masculine.
In fact, one can say that half of society was built by men that went for their goals and made it happen without excuses.
That means you must know the habits that are killing your drive to be a better man.
So don’t fall prey to what society says, they don’t realize that masculinity is healthy when used for positive means.
Instead I want you to work on yourself. Be a better man, go in to the top 20% of men that get 80% of the women.
You see, when you work on yourself, women notice and so does everyone else.
Awareness alone can help you overcome these habits and you can consciously become more confident when you quiet your mind.
And remember this one tip, when you do something that makes you nervous, like going to a gym when you don’t like being in public around others, YOU ARE BEING MASCULINE.
So how hard are you willing to work to better yourself? Let me know in the comments below and share this article with a friend if you enjoyed it.
I will see you next time, and remember this my friend, you’re a legend when you take action 🙂