6 "Nice Guy Mistakes" That Must Stop TODAY!!

Most nice guys have a hard time admitting they have a problem, they just assume... "I can learn Cold Approach." But then they whine like a baby boy when they are about to be friend zoned.

Understanding the “Nice Guy” Syndrome

Let’s get real, brothers. The “Nice Guy” syndrome is a trap that many of you fall into without even realizing it. You prioritize everyone else’s needs over your own, thinking it will make you more likable or attractive.

But here’s the bad news: it doesn’t. This behavior leads to resentment, frustration, and burnout. You end up feeling like a doormat, and guess what? Women can sense that.

When you constantly put others first, you’re sacrificing your own needs and desires. This isn’t just bad for you; it’s bad for your relationships. You can’t build a healthy, fulfilling relationship if you’re always playing the martyr.

Stop being the “Nice Guy” who thinks he has to bend over backward to be liked. Start focusing on your own needs and watch how your life and relationships improve.

Field Report on Pushing Girls Away

Brother's, recently I had given this girl I've been talking to a powerful push when she clearly was trying to get my attention. I simply said...

"Listen I'm using this pull-up bar so get out of my way. I mean that as 'All good' just don't be in my way."

And those of you nice guys I'm sure, you've read that and thought, "I would NEVER attempt to say anything like that."

I want to remind you all that I have been in your shoes. Just go through this article. You should all know that I've dropped girls who have beta-orbiter's.

Meaning, I know my worth than to get involved with anyone who has back-ups. I don't stand for that. You want to date a girl with a roster?

For me, that's a dealbreaker. That's disgusting. She can go suck those guys off because she ain't going to get me in to her bed. Hell no.

With that said, let's get to the first nice guy mistake...

You Are Afraid to Let Girl's Go

The single most common nice guy mistake I’m sure you are afraid to do because once you meet someone you REALLY like, you don’t want to lose her.

But here’s my over-the-top advice coming back. YOU SHOULD LOSE HER.

Because when a woman see’s a man AFRAID of anything, she’s turned off. Simply put, masculine energy conquer’s fears.

Brother’s I’ll state this one more time…

I’ve let go SEVERAL GIRLS who are manipulative and wasted my time. And yet, I meet men who are afraid to do this.

Recognizing red flags early on can save you from investing time in toxic relationships.

Grow a pair of balls brother’s. Your willingness to walk away will awaken her out of her boredom, because sometimes girls like drama. Requires a full article.

You Place Girl's as Top Priority

This is how it feels for girls when you place them as number one

As I said in 3 Bad Beliefs of a Low Status Male… Some nice guys get so weird about their obsession with girls that they end up trying to impress them with material things, which only leads to superficial connections.

Now, even though I’m giving you an extreme example, understand that the reason for giving you this example is simple… Nice Guys have a hard time speaking their true feelings.

So they end up with REPRESSED emotions. And where does that lead? To dark messed up places brothers. You should never FOLLOW GIRLS because that is not masculine. That is straight-up criminal behavior.

I’ve recently had to switch phone numbers due to people stalking me. And I have seen weirdo’s stalk girls. They seem NICE at first, then they turn in to a FREAK.

Brother’s, if you fall in to the category of following women, I really want to ask you to stop reading my articles because my dating & attraction advice will not bring you to your dark twisted fantasies.

You don’t even belong on my website because that’s fucked up. I may touch upon dark topics, but you shouldn’t take the advice too damn literal. Use common sense.

You Self-Improve to Get Girls Attention

Most men think that self-improvement is the key to attracting girls, but this approach often backfires. This is very subtle, in fact, here’s an example… You go to work, you attempt to make more money, you stay passed the hours that you’ve worked and come home to a girlfriend who’s interest is waning by the day.

Why? Because, you say to her.. “Look at what I’ve done babe. I’ve made more money! Let’s go out and I’ll take you to an expensive dinner.”

First mistake… Unless it’s a long term-relationship where this might actually work… You should NEVER BRAG about how much money you brought home.

This is basically you showing off and not in a good way. Brother’s, money does matter in LTR’s, but what works to get girls ATTRACTED is you let her see this on her own time.

Convey that you’ve made good money, do not verbalize it. This is a part of having a healthy ego, that means, if you are doing well for yourself, you need to stop trying to work it in to the next interaction with your girlfriend.

“I DON’T FEEL LIKE I’M ENOUGH SO I NEED TO PROVE MY WORTH BY SHOWING YOU HOW MUCH I MAKE.”

This is what’s being sub-communicated when you self-improve just to show off. Instead, do not say a word. Let it come out naturally. Let it unfold on it’s own time and keep your money to yourself till you see she won’t use you.

Second mistake is you try to brag about your muscles. Listen you guys, I am guilty of doing this in my mid-to-late twenties.

Now I know better. Sure it’s good to be PROUD. But do not brag about how much you can bench. It’s not impressive to girls who hear it every day.

The reason? Girls want to see this on their own time. You VERBALIZING it doesn't work. It comes across as that is all you care about.

You Care to be Liked & Accepted

Why do so many of you actually care to be liked? That’s the real question. Let me tell you all something on overcoming the nice guy syndrome…

Nice guys are too fucking feminine, meaning they seek acceptance from others too much. You rely on the good & bad opinions to feel full. Instead of seeking acceptance, focus on leading interactions with confidence and authenticity.

Quintessential nice guy mistake right here. If you TRULY want to get a strong frame, stop caring to be liked by everyone. Not everyone likes my books.

And I’ve accepted that. You may even get hater’s. Who fucking cares. That’s their stupid opinions because as we know opinions are like assholes.

I want you all to stop giving a literal fuck about how people TRULY feel about you, and then you will have a much more healthy mindset.

Clear lesson from my very first dating ebook, care about other people's opinions and you become their slave.

You Lower Your Standards For Sex

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I know this one stings. In fact, some dude I helped recently ADMITTED to me that he's fallen in to thirst traps on online dating and thought that she was genuine person.

Here is the REALITY brothers...

Girls will make online dating profiles already with an OnlyFans account, and then she will put in her bio, "HMU on Instagram or WhatsApp."

Then here's what happens, they end up making BANK on OnlyFans because they use their sex drive as a POWER TOOL to make more money.

Ha. I'm willing to bet if any of these models came across this article, you are PISSED OFF at me for exposing the UGLY TRUTH about what girls do.

And yes brother's, here's what happens as a result...

YOU'RE IN THE FEMININE ROLE. She's in the masculine position because you are giving her your goddamn resources. CONTROL that damn sex drive.

And stop being a fucking SIMP giving girls money who will only probably use it on drugs, because these models do not value themselves.

Now listen brother's, I am not HATING on girls who do this. In fact, I know someone named Deane, she's now out of that field because she eliminated her vices. Hannah Spanke as well. These two girls are out of that toxic lifestyle.

That right there is a fucking winner. Because she admits the lifestyle she was in was HORRIBLE.

That basically means you place girls above you. Stop acting like girls are angels. She shits and she burps and she wipes off her make-up, then she looks weird afterwards.

You Are Easily Seduced by Women

In my opinion, this is the most common one I see in every man in the dating scene... you are easily seduced.

This doesn't just tie in to dating, you can be easily seduced by the thought of making more money, so you fall for a cryptocurrency scam in which they promise you more money.

You can also be seduced by the thought of your gym crush asking you for your phone number. Seduction is that damn powerful.

Brother's in my dark side of seduction article, I state very clearly, seduction is the HIGHEST FORM OF INFLUENCE.

So what's the point? How do you stop being easily seduced? Simply work on being less impulsive with your sexual desires.

Control that libido and put it in to more productive means. Start working out, start journaling, and do guided visualizations. That is better than constantly going down the rabbit hole of porn, then you end up on fucked up websites.

You Are Afraid to Approach

I know that this one is hard to hear. In fact, all of you reading who have approach anxiety are nodding your head in agreement that it scares you to approach girls.

Alright, so I want you all to get comfortable just socializing. Just be in a fun mood, be outcome independent, and don't expect phone numbers at first.

Here's my suggestion... Go to places where girls are everywhere and anonymity is easy.

Start approaching everyone, approach midgets, approach dancers (like I did), approach taller girls and jokingly ask if she plays basketball.

Learn cold approach. I know my thoughts have recently changed on that topic but when you are first starting out, it's best that you let the game teach you on how to overcome rejection from first-hand experience.

I just gave you 7 nice guy mistakes. Some of these mistakes are harder to overcome than others. I would first learn cold approach if you are a newbie.

The Importance of Social Connection

Nice guys, listen up. One of the biggest mistakes you make is isolating yourselves. You think you can go it alone, but that’s a recipe for disaster. Social connection is crucial for building strong, meaningful relationships. When you have a solid group of friends and acquaintances, you’re more likely to feel confident and self-assured. And guess what? Confidence is attractive to women.

Having other men in your life provides a sense of camaraderie and support. It boosts your self-esteem and self-respect. Many nice guys struggle with this, but it’s time to change. Get out there, make friends, and build a network. Your life will improve, and so will your relationships. Stop isolating yourself and start connecting with others.

Attracting Women with Confidence and Authenticity

Here’s the deal, guys. Attracting women isn’t about being nice; it’s about being confident and authentic. Many nice guys make the mistake of trying to be someone they’re not, thinking it will make them more appealing. But this only leads to feelings of inauthenticity and low self-esteem. Women can see right through that.

When you’re confident and true to yourself, you attract women who appreciate you for who you are. Confidence and authenticity are key to building strong connections. How do you develop these traits? Through self-reflection, self-care, and a willingness to take risks. Focus on your own needs and desires. Build a sense of self-respect and self-worth. This is what truly attracts women. Stop making the mistake of trying to be someone you’re not and start being the best version of yourself.

The Takeaway: Nice Guy Mistakes

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Now you know 7 nice guy mistakes, and I encourage you to check out my first dating eBook as I give you healthy mindsets such as "I am the selector, she is submitting the application."

And I also cover how to tell stories, why nice guys are exploiters of the reciprocity rule, Alpha Male Affirmations, even how to train your state.

Some more topics covered:

How to Dial in Your First Impression
How to Position Yourself as An Authority
How to Pace & Lead Interactions

At first, you should not be getting my second dating eBook because that one is HIGHLY ADVANCED, as I have heard readers tell me.

They hear my podcasts and say... "I can't speak seductively like you."

Don't compare yourself to me. Just work on you, work on being a better man, and stay in your lane. Everyone has their own story.

Feel comfortable to comment below any thoughts, questions, and concerns.

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