How To Flirt With Women

The Push Pull Technique

Flirting using push pull is one of the biggest indicators in a woman’s mind that you are higher status. No, this doesn’t mean you gotta own a million properties. I encourage you to go through this article before we proceed forward.

So many guys are under the impression higher status means becoming a millionaire. Your money doesn’t make you higher status. What makes you higher status is how you talk to women.

It’s not the words you say, it’s how you say it with your authentic self. Essentially, it’s the underlying place it comes from when you flirt. That means you can absolutely become higher status by flirting using push pull.

Flirting can be done through verbal and nonverbal cues, such as body language, eye contact, and touch. Understanding various flirting techniques can significantly enhance your interactions and boost your confidence.

Relationship experts, such as licensed marriage and family therapists, provide valuable advice on flirting and relationships, establishing credibility and authority in their guidance.

So don’t get it twisted, sure its good to make bank, but you don’t need to have a net worth of 1 million to look higher status in a woman’s mind. Not at all, this is what society teaches everyone.

More importantly, you must understand that in the dating field, money really only matters if you are looking for a long-term partner. So get all of the beta-programming out of your head.

Understanding Flirting Fundamentals: Flirting Tips

What is Flirting?

Flirting is a form of social interaction that involves playful and charming behavior to convey romantic interest in another person. It’s a way to show someone that you’re attracted to them and interested in getting to know them better. 

Flirting can be done through verbal and nonverbal cues, such as body language, eye contact, and touch. When done correctly, flirting can be a fun and exciting way to build a connection with someone.

Nice Guys Never Flirt Using Push Pull

Let me state this very clearly, most, if not all nice guys are scared to flirt using push pull…

The reason? Well, they don’t like social discomfort. They run away from it. They are frightened to use shit like push pull to get women attracted. A dating coach can provide valuable guidance on how to effectively use these techniques.

More importantly, it’s important that you take note here because if you are just willing to step outside your comfort zone to flirt using push pull…

You will get more women in your bed. That is if you practice. You gotta practice my friend because without practice… Licensed marriage and family therapists can offer insights on how to improve your interpersonal interactions and build confidence.

Here’s the thing brother, if you want to overcome the nice guy syndrome, you must flirt using push pull.

Because not a single nice guy will push. It freaks them out too much. If you consider yourself a nice guy, it’s time you push your comfort zone…

Click here to take your flirting game to the next level. 

Push Beyond Your Comfort Zone

So it’s time that I really push your buttons to get socially uncomfortable because if you consider yourself as a nice guy…

Then you gotta really take this advice on board. Start pushing your comfort zone in social situations until it feels natural.

Practice being more firm in your tone. Practice being more bold. Start speaking your mind.

This is called high status free association. You need to lower the bar on what you think socially acceptable to say in social situations.

This is the first step to flirt using push pull. I haven’t got to the lines yet. The reason? It’s due to the fact that you gotta have the courage to put yourself out there. Be polarizing, and don't filter yourself.

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Speak your truth brother. Maintain eye contact. Be bold, have a strong frame, and more importantly, be a man that has a strong masculine presence. Now let’s get to the good shit.

Building Confidence and Connection

Lead with Confidence

Leading with confidence is essential when it comes to flirting. When you exude confidence, you’re more likely to make a good impression and attract the attention of the person you’re interested in. Confidence comes from within, so it’s essential to work on building your self-esteem and self-worth.

Practice positive self-talk, focus on your strengths, and take care of your physical and mental health. When you feel good about yourself, you’ll be more likely to radiate confidence and attract others.

Mastering Nonverbal Cues

The Importance of Eye Contact

Eye contact is one of the most important nonverbal cues when it comes to flirting. Maintaining eye contact shows that you’re interested in the other person and helps to build a connection.

When you make eye contact, you’re sending a signal that you’re engaged and attentive. It’s essential to find a balance between making eye contact and not staring too intensely.

Aim for a gentle, relaxed gaze that shows you’re interested in getting to know the other person better. Remember, eye contact is a two-way street, so be sure to look away occasionally to avoid coming on too strong.

Have Fun When Flirting Using Push Pull

Be self-entertained brother, this is the key because the all important point of push pull is giving women the full range of emotions.

Women are drawn to good varying positive emotions. Take that to the bank and cash the check.

Let’s say you are ready to flirt, here’s what I want you to do. Be present, calm, cool, and practice good flirting using push pull…

“You know, it’s too bad you’re not my type, we could have had so much fun.”

Not so bad right? You see, in my high status flirting article, the lines are much more polarizing. So I’m starting out with a light push pull.

But just letting you know, they will build up to more ballsier lines. Anyways, always remember, flirting is in all good playful fun.

Let’s just say for example sake, she test’s you and says…

“Is that you’re pick up line?”

“You caught me, but even though you caught on my magical spell I placed on you, I think it’s time we need to find you another man now.”

Do you see how this is better than being uptight, serious, and entirely uncomfortable?

It’s much better than trying to get something from her right away. Showing genuine interest in her as a person can make a big difference. When you flirt using push pull with women, they light up.

So let’s break this down…

“Even though you caught on my magical spell I place on you…”

That is a pull because you admitted to it.

“I think it’s time we need to find you another man now.”

That is a push because you express disinterest.

Push pull was technically invented by Erik Von Markovik aka Mystery. However, I'm not focusing on negging. Let me be more clear, BANTER is my wheelhouse. 

In fact, negging can work with INSECURE girls, however, my way on how to leverage push pull is not putting a woman's value down, but to raise her state. At the same time throwing her mixed signals with this next sequence :-))

Get Good at Banter Using Push Pull

Banter. Attraction. Wittiness. Clever words. All the good shit.

Brother, this in my humble opinion may be the most important tip I can give you in this entire article…

Be unpredictable. Playfully challenge, more importantly flirt using push pull. Here are some flirting tips: use body language, eye contact, and humor to create an engaging atmosphere while showing genuine interest.

“Why do you have to be so cute, but so much like trouble? You have those bad girl eyes with a good girl face. It’s honestly super confusing to me. Like I consider myself a smart motherfucker, but putting together those bad girl eyes with an innocent face like that is absurd. You know what else is absurd?

Mangoes. They can be delicious, but sometimes disgusting. Like a crazy ex-girlfriend, speaking of girlfriends, that's something you'll never be of mine. No I don't mean that in a bad way, I mean that as I want you as my friend."

Notice the correlation I made between mangoes and ex-girlfriends. Ha. That one is for you Kristen Carney 😉

She might say something like this...

“You’re crazy, I'm not absurd at all." 

“Nah, honestly, I’m out of your league chick. You definitely seem fun though. Maybe we can be friends.”

Mixed signals my friends, is closely related to push pull. You should friend zone girls. Leave them there, don't let them try anything.

Text Flirting: Be Fun and Lighthearted

Text flirting can be a fun and effective way to build a connection with someone, but it requires a delicate balance of playfulness and respect. When flirting over text, it’s essential to be clear about your intentions and avoid being too subtle or ambiguous. Using personalized and creative openers, playful teasing, and emojis can help create a lighthearted and fun atmosphere.

For instance, instead of a boring “Hey, what’s up?” try something more engaging like, “Hey troublemaker, what mischief are you up to today?” This sets a playful tone right from the start. Don’t be afraid to use emojis to add a bit of flair to your messages. A well-placed wink or smirk can go a long way in conveying your interest.

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Remember, the goal is to keep the conversation light and fun. Tease a little, joke around, and show your personality. But always be respectful and pay attention to their responses. If they’re not engaging or seem uninterested, it might be time to switch gears or give them some space.

How To Pass The "Player" Challenge

There's a term in this field called shit tests. And you gotta be a ninja my friend, pass these tests effortlessly.

The most common test you'll get when you get good is, "You're a player, aren't you?"

I look at her and sarcastically say this...

"Yes I am, but you gotta get the term right, it's actually PREMIUM manwhore."

Now we are in, ready to flirt. She's going to bite on. Brother's this right here is how to charm women fast.

Yes, you heard that right... Want to demonstrate a strong frame? This is how to do it. Agree and make it EXTREME.

Some girl's even enjoy extreme flirting, but I want to be clear, this next move must be done delicately and not in a way where it's rude. That's the caveat.

I will write an article on passing shit tests. For this example, I'm simply showing you how to leverage push pull...

"You're such an asshole, I bet you flirt with all the girls."

"How did you know? Shit, you caught me. But honestly, it doesn't matter anyways, even though you're kinda cute, I confess, you aren't really my type."

This is how to flirt using push pull with women and pass tests expertly.

Advanced Flirting Technique: Flirt with Playful Extremes

There is a massive caveat to this whole section brothers, this is advanced for a reason, because it requires you to be more Alpha and start being commanding.

The caveat is you need to do this PROPERLY. Not in a way where it isn't playful. You cannot be too serious. Remember what I said in one of my podcasts?

Assholes use playful extremes. Assholes can be commanding. Nice guys are afraid of this shit.

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"HEY! Watch your mouth when you talk to me like that little girl. Do you know who you're talking to?" 

And I say that LOUD and COMMANDING. Why does this trigger push pull? That's right, let me explain...

Often, this shows a dichotomy of the personalities she is seeing. On one end, she's thinking...

"I want him, I want him." I'm being a challenge, throwing her mixed signals, and all of a sudden I say something COMMANDING...

"HEY!" Then I selectively withdraw my attention. That is major push pull.

That dichotomy of personalities that she see's in her face SKYROCKETS tension. Sometimes, I'll even tease girls and call them a "Dork" or a "Tramp."

I want to be clear, this is not meant to be condescending... This is how to flirt. Now we have reached common ground. Now we start flirting. "You're such a WHORE adam!"

Then we have some shared interests. I noticed she likes players. That's relatable. Ha.

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"Please get it right, it's man-slut."

Now the heated energy has sparked major tension. She asks me some follow up questions, because you know, some girls fight against their urges.

Stay tuned, it gets good in the next section 😉

Blame Her For Arousing You

“You gotta stop giving me that sexy look, it’s all your fault. Even though you’re kinda cute, you gotta stop it right now.”

Blame her for starting flirting with you. Blame her for arousing you. This right here is advanced frame control, to be clear.

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Do you see how everything gets more and more advanced to the level of sexual tension?

So here’s how to flirt using push pull in this section… you can subtly express your interest and practice flirting to make it feel more natural. However, when it's time to up your flirting game, you get more polarizing, but here's how to not be thirsty or needy... Fight against your urges and let her know you aren't easily seduced even though the thought did cross your mind. Let's get to it...

“I cannot talk to you anymore. Even though you’re super cute, you keep sending blood to certain regions and it’s highly inappropriate Nicole. I’m actually going on a six month break of no sex and I want to maintain my winning streak."

How to Close Her After Using Flirting Techniques

I am going to give you a template that I want you to never forget because this qualifies her up to your standards.

When you combine qualifying, on top of solid flirting, this shit works WONDERS!

Women love adventure, romance, and validation, but never fully validate. More on this soon.

Validate, Qualify, and Adventure Close

"You know what I like about you?... You strike me as an adventurous, fun woman. However what's even better is your eye contact. You actually make deep, present eye contact. BUT... a lot of girls I've noticed like to play coy and PRETEND to be interested, but with you, it actually feels genuine. 

<Validation>

And that's rare, eye contact is something that is very important to me. I don't have time for fakeness, if you get me. And I noticed that you actually take the time to be present, but it's obvious their attention span is somewhere else. So I'm curious if someone were to ask you if they know for sure that you are your authentic self, what would be your honest answer?

<Qualification> Take out your phone fast, no hesitancy.

I like that answer. Let's go on a fun adventure. Put your number in here."

Never Fully Validate and Keep Things Light

It's a good sign when she smiles. But you shouldn't give her too much credit. What does it mean to NEVER FULLY VALIDATE GIRLS?

Here's what it means... "You know what? You are the most awesome girl I've ever met and I'll never meet another girl as awesome as you for the rest of my life."

In fact, one time I heard this Justin Bieber song, word for word, he says shit like, "I need you in my life, I am not complete without you."

That is a FULL VALIDATION, and it makes Adam want to throw chairs at Justin.

This is not how to get a first date. Sure it's a compliment, but it's an "ew, gross" type of compliment.

Research shows that most women initiate divorces, and they often do this with beta-males that just PROVIDE them with resources and give them the benefit of the doubt left and right. [R]

You need to keep things interesting. You need to be confident in your masculinity and be confident in your flirting skills.

So here's what I really mean by never fully validate girls.

Do not do a full PUSH and do not do a full PULL.

For example, give her partial validation when you flirt and talk with girls...

"Wow, you look really hot..." versus "Wow you look really hot right now."

It changes everything. It's me validating her and it's a complimenting her which makes her feel good.

But at the same time, it says right now. Maybe there's times where I don't think she is hot. She's not fully validated.

The point is to smile, and don't do a full push like what straight-up genuine assholes would do.

Create Nonexistent Fake Barriers 

Fucking awesome, but it's highly advanced for guys that know what they are doing so here's what barriers are.

They are made-up reasons you two shouldn't hookup. Since flirting using push pull is playing hard-to-get...

This even amplifies desire even more. Evil, I know, but you already know that I have a dark side, don't you?

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Let's say you are with a woman named Jessica in a public place, here's what to say to her...

"I would honestly pick you up, put you on my shoulder and take you to the bathroom and have my way with you since you're so adorable, but we are in a public place so we can't."

Here's the push, the push is the barrier you created.

And the pull is you describing to her what you want to do to her.

Common Mistakes to Avoid

Flirting can be intimidating, and it’s easy to make mistakes that can ruin the connection. Here are some common mistakes to avoid:

Avoiding Common Flirting Mistakes

• Being too aggressive or pushy: Respect the other person’s boundaries and don’t push them to reveal more than they’re comfortable sharing. Flirting should feel natural and fun, not forced or uncomfortable.

• Being too shy or passive: Take risks and be bold in your approach, but also be respectful and considerate of the other person’s feelings. Confidence is attractive, but it’s important to strike the right balance.

• Not paying attention to body language: Pay attention to the other person’s nonverbal cues and adjust your approach accordingly. If they seem uncomfortable or disinterested, it’s important to respect their boundaries and back off.

By avoiding these common mistakes and being genuine, respectful, and playful, you can increase your chances of building a connection with someone and making a good impression. Remember to maintain eye contact, use body language to convey interest, and show genuine interest.

Summary

I know I threw a lot of ways to flirt using push pull, so honestly, do yourself the favor of using one at a time.

Each has its own place. And it is a very effective form of flirting. But here is the biggest caveat to this entire article...

You've gotta look for attraction signs. Make sure she is giving you indicators of interest.

Laughing at jokes that aren't funny, dilated pupils, open body language, and body scanning you. Then start implementing.

Heck I had a woman feel my shoulders once and it was like, "Woah chick, I have boundaries."

Then I started throwing mixed signals back at her because she withdrew attention. Girls naturally use push pull brothers because feminine energy is TESTY.

Here's what we can conclude, flirting using push pull is super fucking effective and it can and will trigger desire effortlessly.

Remember to give girls good energy. I know I can be a bit much on my podcast. However, in the real world, playful banter using push pull you won't hear me being super intense when I flirt, to be clear.

Feel comfortable to reach out to me on social media or leave your takeaways down below, I'd love to hear from you.