How to Be a Player That Drives Women WILD!
In this article, I’m going to give you tactical ways on how to embrace the player lifestyle and drive women wild. However, if you are insecure, this will be much harder to do.
We need to build your confidence first. So let's address the foundation of a highly confident high status man that doesn't need shiny objects to prove it...
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Building the Foundation of Confidence
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To become a confident guy, you need to start by building a rock-solid foundation of self-assurance. This isn’t just about puffing out your chest and strutting around; it’s about genuine personal development and self-care.
Start with the basics: regular exercise, healthy eating, and getting enough sleep. These simple habits can transform your energy levels and overall vibe.
But it doesn’t stop there. Developing a positive mindset and learning to manage stress and anxiety are crucial. Surround yourself with positive, supportive people who lift you up rather than drag you down. This network will boost your confidence and self-esteem.
Taking ownership of your business and diving into entrepreneurship can also skyrocket your confidence. When you have a sense of purpose and control over your life, it shows. Effective communication and social skills are essential too. They help you build strong relationships and network like a pro.
By focusing on these areas, you’ll set yourself up for success in all aspects of your life. Remember, a confident guy is irresistible to women. So, start building that foundation today.
Never Be Fake Hard, Be Authentic
Fake hard is you being fake. Let's be honest, most men out there put out a tough exterior, but then when women test you...
It shows everything about your character. You are clearly not masculine. Fake hard means you are not masculine.
So here's how to be a player starting out...
Become authentic in your masculinity. Never be fake-hard. If you want to know what I mean by that, I encourage you to get 77 Ways to Develop a Masculine Mindset.
Let's move forward. Some people asked me what Wing Girl Method YouTube video I was commenting about in my podcast outro, How I Found Out About The Dark Triad.
Thank you Marni, for this blog idea. You are a fucking legend.
Player's Have The Seducer's Mindset
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I want to tell you all a story…
One time I went to a place called Westlake Nutrition in Westlake, Ohio.
All I did prior to walking in is I just closed my eyes, and then I meditated.
After the meditation, I walked in to the juice bar, and the girls immediately started laughing when they saw me.
I said, “What did I just walk in to?”
She said, “Nothing.” And I know there was something going on. Lol.
I smiled at her, and then I said, “I’d love to get a chocolate whey protein shake with two scoops. Can you do that for me?” Then I looked at her in a sexy way.
In the past, I might have been intimidated by beautiful women, but developing a seducer's mindset has helped me approach them with confidence.
She laughed again. I said, “That’s a cute laugh.”
And then I left the Juice Bar on a high note.
Notice how I didn’t jump to my steamy escalate and release techniques.
You might be wondering why…
Never over-sexualize a conversation when you go out in the field to practice talking to girls.
You must be natural. You must be genuine. But a very simple way to get in touch with your seducer’s mindset is simple daily meditation.
Some of you might find this hard to believe, but when you meditate frequently, you get more socially intuitive. And I often get in that flirty state after meditating.
Player Move: Reformed Rake Gambit
Just converse with any woman at all and let them know that you are the reformed rake. You have a bad reputation. You shouldn’t focus on just one girl.
That’s not a good idea. No girlfriends. Bad idea. They might have the cooties. Ha. Definitely might have the cooties.
“Can you help me? I think I might be going through a problem…”
Any women would jump at the opportunity. This shit is fucking brilliant.
“I have this part of me that is completely addicted to sex. This part of me is called the Reformed Rake. I cannot date anyone. You seem like trouble anyways.”
She will love this. I’m telling you brother, this is POWERFUL.
She might ask you what that is…
“The Reformed Rake? Here’s what it is. It’s a seducer type. This seducer type has a bad reputation. And like I said, I cannot date anyone. Maybe I can make an exception for just one kiss. But be careful, I’m a very passionate kisser.”
Why You Must Focus on Her Sub-Personalities
I cannot believe I’m about to reveal this to you but you know what?
I am the masculine mindset coach. I know that from the women I’ve been with, they all have a dismissive part of their personality.
As my friend Karrie put it, “We have an inner mean girl.”
They have an adventurous part of their personality. They have a wild part of their personality. They even have a sexually aggressive personality!
What the fuck Adam… REALLY?
Yes brother. This is how to be player. Have sexual self-esteem.
Half of you know my seducer’s mindset because you hear it constantly on my show. Every single women has a sexual side.
If you want to know how to be a player that drives women wild, then here’s what I suggest you do…
Start describing to women how you see them in your eyes. And always focus on the ones aren’t so nit-picky. Those women are very masculine. Fuck that.
The whole point of this section in this article is you must remember this brother.
When you are in the seduction process, focus on these sub personalities:
Dismissive side
Naughty side
Sexually assertive side
Wild side
Adventurous side
I strongly encourage you to go through how to turn women on to understand this. Essentially you can bring out women’s naughty side.
They have a naughty side. They have an adventurous side. They have a bitchy side. They can even be a tad bitchy in the sheets.
It's simple why you gotta focus on these sub personalities. Essentially at the right moment, she'll be ready for you to take the lead sexually.
Interacting with other women simultaneously can create an aura of desirability and make your interactions more thrilling.
Any of you women reading, please do not misinterpret my message. I’ve seen women’s dark side manifest in the bedroom.
Emotional Stimulation
In my book Become The Alpha Women Want, I cover the importance of telling stories.
Here's what's covered that you must include in storytelling:
- DHV without over-compensating, imply it instead
- Include girls in your stories for Preselection
- Communicate in the story you are safe
BROTHERS, do not overlook the safety element as you can hear Hannah Spanke say on my podcast say that women are ALWAYS looking out for their safety.
Since you want to know how to be a player, this will scream red flags in their mind. You cannot overlook safety.
Even though I have podcasts naughty as fuck, that doesn’t mean I always act like that when I am actually talking to girls in public.
I think five steps ahead. I know that you must be harmless. You must show safety, don’t say “Oh, I’m a safe guy.”
Don’t just TRY to communicate safety. Women need more proof than that, especially if you want to know how to be a player.
However, always remember, emotional stimulation is very powerful to build massive attraction, especially when telling stories.
This is emotional stimulation well done. A player knows how to tell stories that captivate as many women as possible, making each one feel special and desired. To be clear, this isn’t manipulation. This is you learning how to be a player the right way and be a great guy at the same time.
How to Imply Safety with Women
Have you seen one of my favorite articles on Masculine Development?
As I said, imply safety. Here’s how to do that…
Solidify a deep, powerful connection with women. She wants to feel appreciated. She wants to feel special.
“I don’t know what it is about you, I don’t meet girls in places like this, you know , I never meet girls like you I can actually feel like I connect with and can spend time with.”
Do you see how BRILLIANT this is? So much VALUE being communicated here. A man that can balance safety and DHV is the quality of a player.
Having your own business can also project a sense of self-sufficiency and confidence that women find attractive.
Taking Risks and Being Spontaneous
Taking risks and being spontaneous are key to becoming a confident and attractive guy. Stepping outside your comfort zone can boost your confidence and self-assurance. Embrace spontaneity and be open to new experiences to increase excitement and attraction.
Practice playing hard and be willing to take risks. This not only boosts your confidence but also makes you more attractive. Being spontaneous and taking risks can also help build stronger relationships and improve your overall well-being.
By focusing on these areas, you can become a more confident and attractive guy. Remember, taking risks and being spontaneous are essential for building confidence and increasing attractiveness.
Appeal to Women's Fantasies
This is where I want to shout out Marni yet again. She will always give amazing dating advice.
Slow. Down. You’re. Voice.
Speak slowly. Take your time leading up to this kiss.
Listen brother, even though I admitted on my show that I started having fun and then run…
That doesn’t mean I don’t keep some girls around. They tend to catch feelings.
A player has one-night stands. I know a lot of you women reading this, you’re getting mad.
But this blog is for men. Here’s the point…
Don’t fucking use women. I don’t agree with that. I tend to be overboard on my show, to be honest.
Just be good sex. Always be on her mind when what she thinks about you…
She just thinks, “He’s a fun boy toy.”
And appeal to women’s fantasies. It would be wise of you to read 50 Shades of Gray.
Embracing the player lifestyle means understanding and catering to women's fantasies in a way that keeps them intrigued and wanting more.
Onward we roll…
Tell Her How She Wants to Be Fucked
Yep, I’m getting more explicit as I tend to do on my podcast.
You must be willing to embrace your sexuality. Player’s embrace sexuality.
To be clear, I don’t mean be forceful, I mean you simply show that you know female sexuality.
Use physical push pull with girls. Damn, I’m revealing some of my best secrets.
Pull her in physically and say, “You’re so cute the way you smile.”
Push her GENTLY and say, “Stop giving me that sexy glance.”
Now tell her how she wants to be fucked. Oh shit, I’m kinda crazy.
But you know what? I own my fun craziness. Here’s how girl’s want to be fucked…
80% of girls want to be fucked harder, deeper, more aggressively by dominant alpha males. The other 20% still do, but that’s not what’s first on their mind right now. Let’s talk a little more about that 20%. These are mostly the party girls, the crazy girls, the girls who have been stupidly hot for most of their lives and got the sexual attention of the most of the guys growing up. Because of that, they’re almost always…
More sexually experienced than the other girls
Used to getting hit on by aggressive guys.
Translation: They’ve been fucked harder, deeper and more aggressively a lot. What they want is something entirely different, but let’s go back to the 80% for a second. These girls aren’t necessarily less hot but because they’re usually heavily influenced by culture/religion/family that sex is either a bad thing or a power tool or something precious and rare or something to withhold until marriage OR… whatever other bullshit, ugly people with no game come up with to make everyone else feel bad about having toe-curling sex often….they haven’t had as much of it and very likely have not been fucked by a dominant alpha male.
Describe that to girls my friends. And slow down your voice. Thank you for that one Marni. BOOM!
And you are still telling her how she wants to be fucked. All women want to be seduced. They just want it from a man that gets it.
Future Pace & Challenge Her
Player's are good at flirting & challenging girls
If you want to have a great time, more importantly get her to imagine spending time with you...
Trust me, you need to know about future pacing. But here's my number one issue with this concept in NLP and why it can hurt your chances.
It's only a matter of time till she expects you to ACT on the scene you created in her mind, and I prefer that you EXECUTE. That's the only way future pacing can truly play an impact brothers.
"You know what, you're really fun, I'm totally going to take you out. We're going to go out at night. But first I'm going to take you to chipotle. I'll get you a burrito bowl, and you'll be wearing a nice dress. It's on me, I got you. And then we're going to go to the beach and drink red wine and we're going to sit on the beach and drink, and watch the stars glimmer over the ocean and then at some point, I'll probably get bored so when you're not looking, I'll just leave and walk away and go do something else."
She's now picturing the scene in her mind, now she's interested. Expect her to ask when you're available here. This right here is the ideal time to ask for her number if you just met her.
The Bottom Line: How to Be a Player
"Act as if and you will become." Ralph Waldo Emerson
As you can tell, embracing the player lifestyle means being natural in your interactions with women. If you don’t think you are a natural, here’s what I want you to do…
Just start acting like it, look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I am a boy toy.”
Player’s and boy toys are the same thing. Literally, there is no difference.
I want to tell you all one more story to drive this point home…
One of my friends from college started liking my cocky funny lines on social media.
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And the next thing I know, I see her post on Facebook…
“Game recognizes game, playboy.”
Ha. That cracks me up. You should use cocky funny humor.
Peace out brothers. Go subscribe to the wing girl method Youtube Channel.
Comment below if you plan on using any of these sequences and let me know how it works for you.
Remember, you must be natural in your game. Model these routines.
And start out small. Just practice being in a seductive state. Work your way up to telling women how they want to be fucked.
That one requires full self-belief in who you are and owning your sexuality.
See you soon stud.
