How to Be a Bad Boy the Right Way

Do you want to learn how to be a bad boy? This article is an ESSENTIAL reading on how to overcome the nice guy syndrome.

If you also don't want to be incongruent and become someone YOU ARE NOT, I suggest you keep reading. 

You really should get my hardcover book to dive deep on this topic but here's a good article you can read on the bad boy image...

Understanding the Bad Boy Image

What is it about the Bad Boy that Attracts Women?

The bad boy image has been a timeless fascination for women, and it’s not hard to understand why. A bad boy exudes bad boy confidence, self-assurance, and a sense of independence that can be incredibly attractive. He’s not afraid to take risks, speak his mind, and live life on his own terms. This confidence and self-respect are key components of the bad boy image, and they can be a major turn-on for women.

Unlike nice guys who often lack assertiveness and confidence, bad boys are decisive and straightforward, which can be incredibly appealing.

But what is it about the bad boy that makes him so appealing? Is it the thrill of the unknown, the excitement of being with someone who is a little bit unpredictable? Or is it the sense of security and stability that comes with being with someone who is confident and self-assured? Whatever the reason, it’s clear that the bad boy image has a powerful allure for many women.

Stop People Pleasing Bullshit and Gain Self Respect

It’s like, come on bro, I want to throw my hardcover book at you and turn the page to the section called, “Discover your Inner Bad Boy.”

With that out of the way, I am not going to give you any of the golden nuggets in my book, instead, I want to teach you how to be a bad boy the right way without all the dark triad shit.

Here’s the stupidest bullshit guys do that I saw, and this is COMPLETELY TRUE.

I was in a nightclub in New York, kid you not, I saw this idiot crying on a girls shoulder. I kept my thoughts to myself.

Obviously, all of you know that I continuously practice social skills, and you know that this is vulnerability gone wrong.

Cultivating your own self respect is crucial to commanding respect from others and building confidence. This is the foundation of bad boy confidence, which is essential for embodying the bad boy persona.

Sometimes, seeking mental health treatment can be a vital step in building the self-respect and confidence needed to stop people-pleasing behaviors.

In fact, here’s how to be a bad boy the right way…

Embrace Your Killer Instinct

You need to understand that bad boys are willing to die for their people. They are willing to KILL others to protect people they love.

Without having a killer instinct, how can you become a bad boy? Most people think, “Oh, that’s wrong, why do you encourage violence Adam?”

Need I remind you guys that you don’t need to ACTUALLY harm others to develop a killer instinct. Simply put, learn how to stand your ground. Standing your ground is a key aspect of bad boy confidence, which is crucial for developing a strong and assertive persona.

This right here is how my relationship started with Emily, and I will ALWAYS bring up that story because that will always be the day I never forgot, it has seared in to my subconscious mind.

I was genuinely ready to PUNCH that motherfucker in the face for staring at her like a sex object. Let me ask you the reader a question…

Are you ready to fight someone who gives sexual advances to your girlfriend? If not, hate to break it to you, this might take a long time for you to develop a killer instinct.

Some of you reading, you may not relate, because this has NEVER happened. But you know what? Let me tell you all the facts, bad boys are willing to do the unthinkable to be a dangerous man to stand up for who they care about with high self-confidence.

Alright, that is the first and hardest to achieve in this article, that is if you are a fucking pussy with a vagina. No, I am not talking to girls here, I’m referring to men that are sensitive to the story I just recalled from a few years ago.

RELAX BROTHERS. You need to stop taking shit personal, even though I promote masculinity, it doesn’t mean abuse your masculine power.

Bad Boys Can be Calm & Collected

Alright now that tangent out of the way, it’s time you understand the opposite end of bad boys. Even though most bad boys don’t really express themselves.

That right there is their superpower. Yes I mean that. One of my coworkers told my front desk manager…

“How is Adam so fucking calm Bryan? It’s kinda crazy.”

Plain and simple my friends, I am an introvert at heart. I may have some extroverted moments on my podcast, but I do not express myself that well.

Bad boys value themselves in a balanced and respectable way, practicing self-respect while caring for themselves and respecting others. This balanced approach is a hallmark of bad boy confidence, allowing them to remain calm and collected in various situations.

That means, I often don’t talk. I keep to myself. Often I do my own thing, people try to get my attention, which kinda cracks me up, I’ll cover that soon.

Understand that you don’t need to be so SEXUAL, like how you hear my erotic voice on my podcast.

Critical lesson here brothers, introverts are mysterious. That means if you are an introvert, then you can be a bad boy without changing your persona.

Bad Boys are Willing to Cancel Dates

Ok, now here’s where I might get some women pissed off at me for saying this but hear me out FIRST.

When men are consistent to make plans, yes, I agree, that is a GOOD THING.

However being predictable is an attraction killer. So this is why I make a clear rule in my second dating eBook above…

Be unafraid to cancelling plans with women. That means, you my friend, you must be willing to drop plans if something comes up.

It’s important for both partners to maintain their own lives, upholding their own interests, friendships, and hobbies. This independence is a key component of bad boy confidence, making them more attractive and self-assured.

But obviously, there is a diminishing level of returns on this one. If you are blatantly cancelling for the sake of being an unattractive asshole…

Then she see’s that you are just a GENUINE ASSHOLE who doesn’t care about her at all. That’s the fine line you need to understand.

Simply put, whenever you realize that there is something important coming up with work for example, be upfront with her, and tell her.

Or even if you aren’t in the mood to see the girl you are talking to and she wants to see you, just be honest if you don’t want to see her for one night.

Be Comfortable in Your Sexuality

Yes brother’s, you hear me say this consistently on my podcast. Girls love a man who is comfortable in himself and shamelessly sexual.

But obviously, there’s balance with this one as well. You don’t want to come across as a low value, thirsty guy who just wants to get his dick wet.

It’s perfectly fine to pursue purely sexual relationships as long as you are honest about your intentions. Being comfortable in your sexuality is a significant aspect of bad boy confidence, which makes you more appealing to women.

I’ll cover that soon, just understand that you need to be comfortable in your sex drive. And watch how turned on girls get from you doing this.

Simply put, you can tease girls sexually. You can build up her buying temperature, and then pull away.

Meaning, start flirting using push pull brothers!!

Arouse & Release

Pull her hair in a calibrated way and tell her…

“That’s all I know about female arousal. Time for my second drink.”

“Do yourself favor and don’t let me undercook your muffins, because I suck in the bedroom.” Then wink at her.

*“Don’t look at me like that…” *Then use feather light touches on her leg.

“Dammit, do you see what you made me do? I cannot do this, I am a recovering sex addict. I would be way too much for you to handle.”

I always tell girls I’m a tease. This is another great one. You gotta use this.

“Listen, I’m such a tease in the bedroom. I wouldn’t let you kiss me during sex either.”

Here’s a story behind this one brothers. One time I had to quarantine with the chick I was seeing sexually and we straight up CHALLENGED each other to do foreplay and the act itself but ZERO kissing.

Physical Escalations

When pursuing purely sexual relationships, it's important to be upfront about your intentions. This honesty can lead to more genuine connections with potential partners.

Let's talk about scratch, neck, hair pull. A lot of women love their hair being pulled. So listen up brothers, this is how to AROUSE GIRLS! 

Most men do not do hair pulling the right way, so really read this closely, I need you to read her and calibrate accordingly.

For instance, let's just say I'm in comfort with a girl named Jessica and we are playfully bantering, I'll look deeply in to her eyes with my flirtatious "look of desire" that I call it on my podcast. This is what I will do...

I'll reach over and put my hand on the base of her neck, upside down, like my palm facing my elbow, if that makes sense, and I'll pull my fingers up her neck. By now, she is moaning or bites her lip. That's how I test her attraction. 

At that point, I will grab her hair and give a little tug. Not enough to move her head. Brother's listen closely... I know I'm overboard sometimes on my podcast. But when I get physical... I am VERY careful to read her comfort. Essentially I find her comfort threshold. Then I pull away the minute I notice she gives me a nonverbal signal to STOP.

Embracing Your Authentic Self

Being True to Yourself and Your Desires

Being a bad boy is not just about projecting a certain image or attitude; it’s about being true to yourself and your desires. It’s about embracing your authentic self and living life on your own terms. This authenticity is a core element of bad boy confidence, making you more attractive and self-assured. This means being honest with yourself and others, and not being afraid to speak your mind and stand up for what you believe in.

It also means being confident in your own skin and not trying to change who you are to fit someone else’s idea of what a bad boy should be. It’s about being self-assured and knowing what you want, and not being afraid to go after it. When you’re true to yourself and your desires, you exude a sense of confidence and self-respect that can be incredibly attractive to women.

Setting Boundaries and Priorities

Knowing What You Want and Choosing the Pace

Being a bad boy means knowing what you want and choosing the pace. It’s about setting boundaries and priorities, and not being afraid to say no to things that don’t align with your values and desires. This means being confident in your own decision-making and not letting others dictate how you live your life.

It also means being respectful of others’ boundaries and priorities, and not trying to push someone into something they’re not comfortable with. When you’re clear about what you want and what you’re willing to do, you exude a sense of confidence and self-respect that can be incredibly attractive to women. This clarity and decisiveness are key aspects of bad boy confidence. By setting boundaries and priorities, you’re showing that you’re a man who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to go after it.

Avoiding Common Mistakes

Don’t Try to Fake It

Trying to fake being a bad boy can be a major turn-off for women. Authenticity is key when it comes to being a bad boy. If you’re trying to be someone you’re not, it will show, and women will be able to tell. Instead, focus on building your self-confidence and self-respect. Work on being the best version of yourself, and the rest will follow.

Being a bad boy is not just about acting a certain way or wearing certain clothes. It’s about having a certain mindset and attitude. It’s about being confident, self-assured, and unapologetic about who you are. If you’re trying to fake it, you’ll come across as insincere and untrustworthy.

Instead of trying to fake it, focus on building your self-esteem and self-respect. Building genuine self-esteem and self-respect is essential for developing bad boy confidence. Work on being confident and self-assured, and the rest will follow. Remember, being a bad boy is not just about how you act, but about who you are as a person.

Those of you nice guys reading, understand that you need to make a big change to your habits if you want to know how to be a bad boy. You need to discover your masculine purpose and have a powerful presence.

Passionate and Purposeful

Being a bad boy is not just about being confident and self-assured, but also about being passionate and purposeful. Bad boys are not afraid to take risks and pursue their passions, even if it means going against the norm. They are driven by a sense of purpose and are not afraid to stand up for what they believe in.

Women love bad boys because they are passionate and purposeful. They are drawn to men who are confident, self-assured, and unapologetic about who they are. Bad boys are not afraid to show their emotions and be vulnerable, but they are also not afraid to take control and lead.

To be a bad boy, you need to be passionate and purposeful. This passion and purpose are key components of bad boy confidence, making you more attractive and self-assured. You need to have a sense of direction and be driven by a desire to achieve your goals. It’s worth noting that being a bad boy is not about pursuing purely sexual relationships. While bad boys may have a reputation for being players, they are also capable of forming deep and meaningful connections with women.

By avoiding common mistakes and being passionate and purposeful, you can become a bad boy that women love. Remember to focus on building your self-esteem and self-respect, and to be authentic and true to yourself. With time and practice, you can become a confident and self-assured bad boy who is capable of forming deep and meaningful connections with women.

Bad Boys Give Girls an Emotional Rollercoaster: Why Women Love Bad Boys

This is the obvious, and most important one in this entire article brothers. We all know that women are highly emotional right?

Women love bad boys because they provide an emotional rollercoaster, which keeps the excitement alive. However, if you are a bad boy the right way, here’s how to give girls an emotional rollercoaster, just do yourself the favor of going through Higher Status Flirting…

Click the podcast and listen to Hannah and I bantering, that is a GREAT example of taking a girl through an emotional rollercoaster.

However, I want to make one thing clear, I did not blatantly plan out dropping that tease of having the third best smile…

Simply put, I used it successfully many times, but understand, each girl responds differently to teasing. Negging is closely related to that.

Bad Boys are Good at Emotional Stimulation

If something feels good to girls brothers, and it “feels right,” then her world it is right. Most men cannot understand this.

The typical bad boy embodies traits like confidence, assertiveness, and authenticity, which appeal to women by stimulating their emotions.

However, when you understand just simple cause and effect, you’ll come to realize as I have, that girls run towards the cause of their emotions.

Men tend to create these giant frameworks right? If you are a premium buyer of my dating material, then you know…

1. Attraction

2. High Status Conversations

3. Qualifying & Escalation

But you gotta understand that in real life, it doesn’t always happen the way you think. Some girls make it easy, others challenge you like crazy.

To the feminine, emotions are all that matters. Something can feel wrong to them, but finding a hot guy can feel right to them. This right here is why I’ve been called a “Player” by girls but they still get close to me even though they hate how much I’m making other girls feel good.

Bad Boys Don't Care to Impress Anyone

This ties directly in to healthy self-entitlement that you hear me say consistently on my podcast.

You need to be more entitled to your time. Meaning, be slightly selfish.

And it goes directly back in to cancelling dates. Again, don’t mistake this of being a straight up douchebag.

I know I have a self-deprecating cold read on my show basically JOKING on calling myself a douchebag, but simply put, you need to stop caring.

Hence the reason I don’t take life too seriously. You should take life less seriously, but more importantly, stop caring to impress people.

A very bad boy embodies this mindset by being confident, independent, and focusing on self-interest.

Related Article: How to Get a STRONG FRAME

In fact, go be surrounded by badasses as you hear me say on the episode in this blog article.

When you don’t care to impress people, this addresses the first point I made in my article, you stop people pleasing behaviors.

Apathy is a strong frame brothers. I want to say that one more time…

Not caring and giving a literal fuck about what people think is FRAME CONTROL in a nutshell.

Bad Boys Fuck Girls the Right Way

Here’s what you must understand about being a bad boy.

You need to be the PHYSICAL GUY in the bedroom. Engaging in regular physical activity not only enhances physical fitness but also provides the greatest immediate psychological boost, making you feel more attractive and confident.

Give her playful hip bumps and even bear hugs, and then push her away.

Physical push pull is super fucking powerful and can lead to the bedroom super fucking fast, believe me brothers, this WORKS.

When you are in the bedroom, fuck her the right way. Be fully comfortable in your sex drive.

Eliminate all sexual anxiety. Bad boys do not have sexual anxiety. They know what they are doing in the bedroom.

BROTHERS LISTEN UP HERE…

I literally heard this comment from girls I’ve fucked, “I can’t handle it Adam, this is the best sex I’ve ever had!”

Any of you think it’s too good to be true? Ha. That’s funny.

You see, I've had sex several hundred times fucking this girl in missionary and I can confidently tell you all that I can switch sex positions and I stayed inside her.

Meaning, I would put her right leg on the other side of the bed to my right side and she is in the stomach down doggy style position.

That took some thought to actually visualize that. Lol. Where was I at… That’s right my friends. Give girls the best sex they have ever had brothers.

Bad boys are boy toys. Yes, I've been called that term several times.

The Takeaway: How to Be a Bad Boy

You want to learn how to be a bad boy, I love that. Here’s how to sum up this article, be a challenge to girls and start being unpredictable.

More importantly, cancel plans when you’re busy. And go lift weights to Alpha Body Blueprint. Or whatever you have on your workout schedule.

More importantly, if you want the energy of a bad boy, physicality is EVERYTHING. Read my damn health & fitness articles you IDIOT!!

Calm down brothers. I'm only calling you out because I know you can take it. Just go to the damn gym, no excuses. You don't always need to have sex as I said in the podcast above.

Moderately intense aerobic exercise not only contributes to physical health but also plays a significant role in boosting self-esteem and mood, making it an effective strategy for confidence-building and overall attractiveness.

A huge principle to becoming a bad boy is to be slightly emotionally unavailable but not be TOO UNAVAILABLE.

As you know, I made that mistake. But that’s why I’ve been letting my emotions come back slowly, but the clear point is you don’t become emotionally detached.

Speaking from experience brothers, you need to be able to spike a woman’s emotions, and you don’t do that by being too emotionally distant.

There is a balance between playfulness and being that unwavering rock she can vent on when she’s going through a rough time.

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