How To Attract a Woman

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If you are looking to how to attract a lady, look no further than this article! What I am about to reveal today may just ring some light bulb moments in your head on what attracts women.

There are a myriad of ways to approach women and start attracting women, however, it's important that we cover the basics before we get down to methods on how to attract women.

Most coaches say confidence is number one. Yeah it's definitely true, but there are so many types of confidence that you can't rely on how girls define it. You need to experience first hand what it FEELS like to be confident. 

How do You Define Confidence?

Confidence is the quality of self-assurance, self-belief, and certainty. From the words we use to the way we walk, stand and interact with others, our confidence is revealed in all of our actions. One of the highest aspects of confidence is an understanding of self-value or, more importantly, lack of neediness. 

When you seek validation from others, you are portraying yourself as low confidence. Look at yourself in interactions with others... Are you asking their approval on things you're doing or wearing? These are key signs of a lack of confidence. One of the key factors in confidence is belief in your own abilities.

Non-Verbal Communication and Body Language is How to Attract Women

Consider how you present yourself, consider your body language, consider your eye contact, and more importantly, walk slow-and-controlled. What girls do not find attractive is tense body language and looking scared. More importantly, maintaining eye contact is EXTREMELY important if you are first meeting women.

Do not impress women, do not build up your self-esteem, more importantly, do not puff up your body language. Those of you know by now that it's important to have a healthy ego, however, it must be subtle and this shouldn't be too obvious. The most attractive traits is having relaxed eye contact and more importantly expansive body language.

Also consider wearing good clothes, and if you want to have natural confidence, not fake confidence, then remember to have a healthy ego and a sense of humor behind that healthy ego. Meaning, practice self love and prioritize your own life.

Indifference on Outcomes

Always be optimistic on finding interested leads in your love life, but always be indifferent to outcomes. This is an irresistible trait that is EXTREMELY rare. Any girl that meets a man will feel attracted to the man who doesn’t care about outcomes on if he gets a phone number, or if he gets laid.

In fact, most women know what men REALLY want. This is why indifference on outcomes is so damn powerful. How often do you see men be indifferent in social dynamics? It doesn’t happen. Men who are indifferent to outcomes are less likely to attract needy women, leading to healthier and more genuine relationships.

Men nowadays are vulnerable in the most disgusting way possible. Brothers, I remember my interview with Hannah Spanke on vulnerability, she even explains when you are just starting out, this is a BAD PLAN. You need to SLOWLY open yourself up but be a mystery. 

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If you want to be an attractive man, I suggest you meet women with ZERO ulterior motives and don’t care to attract women. It’s interesting on how it works, but attracting women is completely counterintuitive to what most men think actually works.

With all of that out of the way, let’s remember that you do want to trigger that emotional connection but always remember to demonstrate alpha indifference as this is extremely powerful. Let’s get in to the good shit now when you’re conversing with girls.

Understanding Attraction and Intentions

Understanding attraction and intentions is crucial in attracting women. Attraction isn’t just about looks or social status; it’s an emotional process. Women tend to be drawn to men who make them feel good, who are genuine, and who have clear intentions. This is how to attract women. 

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It’s not about putting on a show or pretending to be someone you’re not. It’s about being authentic and letting your true self shine through. When a woman feels that your intentions are genuine and that you’re motivated by more than just physical attraction, she’s more likely to be drawn to you.

Remember, people choose who they’re going to be with based on how they feel around that person. So, focus on creating positive, genuine interactions that make her feel good.

Defining Your Intentions

Defining your intentions is essential in attracting women. What motivates your behavior is just as important as the behavior itself. If you’re adopting non-needy behaviors just to impress women, you’re still being needy. Instead, focus on self-improvement because you care about yourself and want to be the best version of you. 

Attracting women should be a side-effect of that desire, not the primary goal. When you genuinely care about yourself and your own life, it shows. Women can sense when a man is confident and self-assured because he values himself, not because he’s trying to impress others. If you want to know how to attract women, start stating your intentions, but don't be weird about it.

So, work on yourself, prioritize your own life, and let attracting women be a natural outcome of your self-confidence and self-love.

Framing Her as Hitting on You and Trying to Impress You

You've been through the higher status flirting I assume? This is in my mind the easiest way to attract women fast. Especially if other girls see you flirting with girls!

"Listen I understand you're attracted to me and all, but you gotta stop looking at me like that...it's making me uncomfortable."

"Is that your best pick-up line?"

"Stop trying to take an advantage of me, it won't work."

When she hits you on the arm... "Would you stop hitting on me, GOD...it's not going to work. I'm not that easy."

This is one of the awesome ways to attract women. Let's finish this off with some bonus fun ways to attract women by playful banter...

"Look, you're a nice girl. You need a NICE boy. I'm not that guy, I'm trouble. Come on, let's look around the venue and find you a man."

"Listen, this is all very impressive, but I'm not sleeping with you tonight...it's just not gonna happen." <When she shares a vulnerable story to try to impress you>

A very fun way on learning to attract women is simply knowing how to tease women. This gets them to see you as higher value because a lot of men aren't willing to step outside their comfort zone and conquer their fears.

Polarization is How to Attract Women

If there is one trait that you must embody, that is you are polarizing. Have you guys noticed how far I go on my podcast? If you are dating women, then you really need to be polarizing.

Why should you be polarizing? Should I go in to detail? This is how girls see how masculine you are. If you want to show direct sexual desire, and show hot eye contact, she’ll notice and it’s going to turn her on fast.

Never show needy behavior, instead own your self confidence, and be polarizing in all of your interactions with girls. Avoiding needy behavior helps in not attracting needy women, which is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship. When approaching women, you must be polarizing but also genuinely care because this can go too far and you become that jerk who doesn’t keep girls.

It’s very simple brother’s, if you want to attract women, polarization is a topic I cover frequently on my podcast, but it cannot be forced. If you want to know how to be polarizing, go through how to flirt using push pull. That is a polarizing flirting technique which increases sexual desires between both sexes.

Example of Polarizing Flirting - Playful Disagreements

Shit, I hate agreeing with girls. In social dynamics, sometimes even if a girl says, "I read too, Adam! That's so cool you're an author!"

Instead of talking about common interests, I may just say something like... "Wait, you read? That's weird. I'm an author, I didn't say I read for a living."

Now there is tension. FUCK AGREEABLENESS. With girls, tension beats agreeable. Tension always trumps agreeable.

I have a wry smile while flirting. I'm being sarcastic. She might hit my arm. That right there is an example of polarizing flirting.

Negative Body Language & Ignoring Attracts Women

There is something I never touched upon on my blog yet, and that is negative body language. Attracting women requires you to fight against what you really want brother.

In everyday life, beautiful women are approached by needy men who often show positive body language. However, with the right woman who feels confident she can get men easily, you need to show negative body language to avoid attracting needy women.

Simply you are turning away from her in any kind of way. This shows non-neediness. Remember Alpha Indifference? You cannot build sexual tension unless you get her attracted FIRST.

Then you start implementing negative body language and start ignoring girls. Never be a needy man. I know a lot of you reading may have a hard time believing this is how to attract women. However, I’m telling you the truth, not even 6 hours ago I did negative body language…

And her body language started facing me after I told her a high value story. Then I looked at her and held eye contact for a short second, then I left after I saw pupil dilation… Also known as a high note takeaway.

How to Use Ignoring PROPERLY Without Being a Dick

Ok brothers, this is something I learned the hard way. You can turn in to a dick easily. So here's the best way to use ignoring the right way to trigger sexual attraction...

You need to already have a relationship with her from my experience, but then you give other girls attention (watch this carefully)

There is a major caveat as you never verbalize having a rotation if you are a player. You need to make sure she is invested already... And then start ENDING PHONE CALLS FIRST.

Don't answer her calls. Don't answer when she wants to hangout. Be seen around other women, now she is most definitely feeling some type of longing for you.

Here's how you don't be a dick, have your own amazing life, have your own hobbies, and just let her know through actions that your masculine purpose comes first before her.

Never throw away your purpose to chase short-term pleasures.

Have High Status Self-Love

This may be my favorite shit to use with girls because I often can come across as cocky. But you know that already if you listen to my episodes on Masculine Mindset Show :-))

You already know I love myself sooo much. Like I look in the mirror and that mirror just says the most amazing things to me... I love life. I put conscious effort in to my physical appearance so I just start loving every bit of it. Lol.

When you do this with girls, it sparks attraction because in her mind, they start asking themselves, "Who does this guy think he is? He really thinks himself so highly? I have to make sure he is who he says."

This is when they are start testing, and I love it when they test my sexy self-love. "Look, come on I know you were looking in my gorgeous eyes."

She'll notice my high status self confidence. I start flirting, it's on. She thinks she can test me. Ha.

"You look weird." She says.

Then I look at her like she just COMPLIMENTED me. And I tell her... "Thank you. I love myself all the same."

Now, she laughs and realizes she can't question my self-love. "You look really nice tonight Adam."

"You're really good looking." Then you say.. "I know."

"Appreciate that, I know, I do." Or she might say... "You're really funny." Heard that one before.

"I know." This attracts girls brothers. Maintaining eye contact, taking deep breaths, have a genuine smile and start being a challenge to girls.

The 'Challenging' Guy Attract Girls

You’re learning about polarization, and having high status self-love, and more importantly, you are learning about how ignoring works with girls.

The confident ‘aloof’ guy is often a challenge. And this may be the most important point to this entire article. You guys already know to not be too emotionally unavailable by now, right?

That may attract women but not HEALTHY girls who are a match for your unavailability. Believe me brothers, you don’t want to do this. I learned this the hard way.

How to be a challenge the right way is you live with an open heart, but you show through actions you value yourself and you screen girls. If you want to avoid the friend zone brothers, don’t be available.

Beautiful women tend to be attracted to men that are not easy. Want to attract a woman? Consider putting this as top priority.

Being an easy guy is a turn off. Brother’s listen up here, if you want lasting attraction… you need to be a CHALLENGE! Being a challenging guy helps in not attracting needy women, who are often drawn to men who are too available.

Obviously, knowing how to flirt using push pull matters, but if you combine the flirting tactics first, then the principles second, there is a synergistic balance that gets them the results to TRULY attract women.

She is attracted to the man who is a challenge to her, the man who actively and passively challenges her. She is repelled by the man who does not challenge her in some way or fashion on an ongoing basis.

That means, in conversation and in time together, you’re constantly challenging her, real and playfully, and on a macro level, you’re always a challenge for her she’ll never fully get (because deep down, she never actually wants to).

This does not mean you cannot have common ground and connect with girls. You just need to balance between staying the challenging ‘aloof’ guy and have genuine conversations together.

Bonus Tip - Engaging in Productive Conversations

Engaging in productive conversations is vital in building a connection with a woman. It’s not just about talking; it’s about connecting on a deeper level. Find common interests and passions to discuss.

Be an active listener—this means really paying attention to what she’s saying and responding thoughtfully. Show genuine interest in her thoughts and feelings. Women tend to be attracted to men who are respectful and considerate in their conversations.

So, ask questions, listen actively, and share your own experiences in a way that builds a connection. Remember, a productive conversation is a two-way street, and showing that you value her input will go a long way in attracting her.

Bonus Tip - Approaching Women in Social Situations

Approaching women in social situations can be challenging, but it’s not impossible. Confidence is key. Women are attracted to men who are self-assured and comfortable in their own skin. When you approach a woman, show genuine interest in her.

This means making eye contact, smiling, and being respectful. Don’t try to be someone you’re not; authenticity is incredibly attractive. Be yourself, and let your true personality shine through. Women appreciate men who are considerate and respectful in their approach. So, be confident, and most importantly, be yourself. This will make you stand out and increase your chances of building a genuine connection.

Summary: How to Attract Women

You have now learned the principles of attraction. Now you have learned how to flirt with girls by blaming her for hitting on you & making moves on you, and you've learned why polarization is a turn-on, but more importantly, you learned the principle of being fun and challenging.

This may be one of the easiest ways to attract women because most, if not all girls want a man that thinks of himself highly and he places high value on himself and doesn't give a shit if anyone tests him on his self-love. That is high status self-love, you TRULY stop caring about what anyone thinks.

Also, you've learned about non-verbal communication, body language, and indifferences on outcomes, and why these two aspects are the skeleton behind social dynamics. All of this is super fucking attractive as it is.

Combine good, solid playful banter, teasing, and flirting, it's over. Write down the lines I gave you, I know they work Lastly, but most importantly, if you want to meet a woman that may become a wonderful wife, just remember, the principles of attraction. When you pass her tests with flying colors, you'll start building sexual tension and feel confident leading girls.

Brothers, if there is one major quality of a masculine Alpha Male, that is leadership. Lead the men and the women will follow. Get a job that increases your social status my friends. Then you are higher status.

That will literally skyrocket attractiveness in any woman's mind. Yes, confidence is great, but combine high status self-love, on top of being a leader to your tribe, fuck yes, THAT IS LEGENDARY STATUS.

Feel comfortable to reach out to me over email or social media. Leave me a comment and I'll see you next time brothers!