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What Girls Secretly Want
It's been too long since I've posted an article on the topic of attraction. Why? Well, in case you haven't stumbled across my health & fitness articles...
I am a group instructor & online trainer and honestly, I care less to date girls lately other than just have some good playful fun in my social life if you get me.
You will find out three unreleased shocking truths that is not on my podcast about female nature in this blog article. So let's get started, shall we?
Female Psychology
In case you didn’t know, female psychology is a MASSIVE field that honestly, I could write TWENTY articles on, but that would be tediously long.
I want to give all of my readers informative material of what I’ve been through in my social life & sex life. Not some stupid crap like…
“Women want a man with confidence!”
That’s generic bullshit. And it doesn’t help the average man who doesn’t feel confident in their own skin. Understanding the psychological aspects of women's experiences is crucial to truly grasp what they want.
Here are some articles I want you to read before we proceed:
You must get an understanding of how men and women are not the same. Understanding female psychology is key to realizing that. The Female Brain Book Review will get you to realize that.
More importantly, you need to open up with girls. You can’t just shut down.
Lastly, you need to start flirting with girls if you want to understand what girls want from men!
Let’s get to the first shocking truth on what girls want from men but will never tell you…
Chasing Equals Zero Attraction
Yup, this is a shocking truth, and you’ll find this out the hard way if you have no abundance.
You need to act as if you are a player with high self-esteem. Why? Because this puts you in the right mentality of taking it all.
You take it all in, you have amazing experiences. And more importantly, you no longer suffer from oneitis.
In case you didn’t know, there is no oneitis my friends. You should never place girls as your priority.
Even if that’s what she says she wants, more on that later. Just understand that chasing equals zero attraction motherfuckers.
Just listen to my over-the-top podcast. And don’t get butthurt.
You’d be wise to realize I am comically overboard. So don’t take my name-calling personal. I get like that when I am in the flow state.
Non-neediness is Attractive
I know you've probably heard this a million times from a million other coaches, but here's how I approach this topic...
Instead of having that thought to want to reach out to that pretty girl you are talking to, always remember that when you have the discipline to pull away
She will come back around. They always come back. Especially when you focus on putting your own priorities before her. This is where people give me shit, but you know what solves the neediness problem?
BE SELF-ENTITLED TO YOUR OWN TIME. PUT YOURSELF FIRST.
Masculinity Turns All Girls On
I want all of you to stop following the masses on what people say on the topic of being, “Too Masculine.”
Because when it comes to female psychology, all girls don’t wake up and say, “I don’t want a man to make me feel girly.”
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Unless she has a bad relationship with men, that’s when I would say that you need to take your masculine energy as far as you can.
The reason? Because girls that have a bad relationship with men, they need a wake-up call on who leads the fucking relationship.
YOU LEAD HER. Body language is crucial here; your nonverbal cues should convey security and self-confidence.
More on this later, but NEVER put her in the masculine role brothers.
I want all of you to LISTEN UP here because my previous girlfriends had a lack of a father figure and I am going to tell you a story on how I got her extremely turned on.
You need to be polarizing. Be unafraid to drop her at a moments notice if she thinks she can disrespect you.
Unfiltered Polarizing Self-Expression and Emotional Intelligence
Ok, now it’s time I tell you something that most girls are not used to. That is you being polarizing in your masculinity. And yes, this is a shocking truth to female psychology.
I remember this like it was yesterday, I went on FaceTime, and I called her because she started getting bitchy with me over NOTHING.
And I told her this directly and as blunt as I can…
“I am not dealing with how you are acting. If you think you can get away with it, you thought WRONG. Stop with the nit-picky comments RIGHT NOW.”
Are you ready for what happened after I did this brothers?
We had make-up sex and FUCK, I made her climax five times in a row.
The point of the story? That’s right, it required unfiltered polarizing self-expression. Emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in understanding and managing these interactions effectively.
Girls might say they don’t like men to go really far (and let’s be real, I was definitely an asshole the way I delivered it) but deep down, they cannot help what they are attracted to.
Emotional intelligence simply means you know how to manage your emotions. As in don't be afraid to be freely expressive. This is how to cultivate vulnerability properly.
Don't misinterpret me brothers, I don't mean be STUPID and cry to her about your problems. Just be willing to EXPRESS yourself.
If She Starts Leading, You Will Bore Her to Tears
As I clearly stated in the podcast episode, if you bring up boring topics, she’s going to leave.
You need to come prepared. Know what you’re going to say. I have a new eBook called How to Always Know What to Say.
Do not overlook this. Girls are EASILY bored. Believe me. I always notice the girls I have been recently chatting up, Jessica, Alexis, and Tiffany.
An Example of Fun, Playful Banter
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They stare at their phones. Then I ask them, “How goes it Tiffany?”
Laughing, she banters back and says, “It goes over there.”
Then I respond, “Where does it go from there?”
Do you see how this is good playful conversation? It’s because when it comes to social interactions and improving interpersonal relationships, sometimes you need to make shit up and go back and forth.
Her Tests Equals Attraction
That goes without saying girls will test you if she sees you as a potential suitor.
Simply put, that means she likes you. A lot of guys get mad about this. Honestly, this is a good thing and you need to look at your anger issues. It's also important to consider that some behaviors might stem from underlying mental health issues.
Because getting mad like an insecure weirdo, she won’t feel safe around you.
I want to make myself clear to all of my readers, I know I sound pretty harsh on some of my podcasts.
My tonality does NOT sound like that when I’m bantering in the field.
Examples of Shit Tests and How to Deal with Them
An example of a common test you might hear…
“Does that line usually work for you? Did you get that from a book?”
Ha. That’s a cute line I’ve heard a lot.
Hilariously unaffected… “Yes, especially with girls that ask that question like yourself.”
Another test you might get from girls…
“Can you take me shopping?” LOL.
Flip the script brothers, and make her see how ridiculous her favor is..
“Did you say you want to take me shopping? Ok, listen, I like the vanilla sweet cream cold brew from Starbucks. Can you remember that?”
Reprimanding Poor Behavior Increases Her Respect
Don’t misinterpret this section my friends. The whole point is the shocking truth about female psychology is they want a man who can stand up for themselves.
As you can hear in the podcast, women will act bitchy. She’s simply testing your resolve. Societal expectations often play a role in shaping such behaviors.
The best way to reprimand her in a way that isn’t overboard like how some people think I am on my show is to say something like this…
“Don’t talk to me like that EVER again.”
How does this relate to female psychology? That’s right, it relates to her feeling like she wants to try to get under your skin.
She wants to see you have emotional dominance.
Another great comment here if you think that’s too much…
“The way you just treated me… NOT COOL. Change it immediately moving forward.”
Obviously, you don’t need to be cold like how I sound sometimes, just say it calmly.
This is a shocking truth to female psychology when you realize girls view you DIFFERENTLY after you call them out correctly.
Tolerating Bad Behavior Increases Disrespect
“When a man resigns, and simply tolerates his woman’s self-destructive moods, it is a sign of his weakness. A man shouldn’t tolerate bitchy and complaining moodiness in his woman.” -David Deida
As you know, I take inspiration from The Way of The Superior Man a lot on this blog and this one right here is huge.
A shocking truth about female psychology, simply put, is girls will disrespect you. Sometimes unknowingly if you don’t state your boundaries.
This requires communication on both parties. Mental health plays a crucial role in maintaining healthy relationships and should be considered when setting boundaries. As we know from Dr Louann Brizendine’s book, a shitload of miscommunications can be avoided when you understand that girls operate through their FEELINGS.
Simply put, you need to know what you will and will not put up with. Communicate that with the girls you sleep with.
Never Trust Her Words, Trust Her Body Language and Actions Instead
Ha, this shocking truth cracks me up. I remember when this girl I was seeing started fighting against her rational mind after we fucked…
“I didn’t really think you could handle me Adam.”
Then the following night I was eating her out for like 45 minutes and she climaxed four fucking times.
I want you all to swallow this weird truth. Girls will question their own actions and say comments like… “I would never do this!!”
Then one week after I heard her say, “I didn’t really think you could handle me.”
I heard her say these words, NO BULLSHIT.
“I am dickmitized. Fuck, you’re good.”
Girls who are highly confident will test you like this. I want you to be prepared.
Meaning, this is what happened brothers, she threw out the test and tried seeing what I would do.
Then I saw her actions, she kept sending me lingerie videos of her dancing in a red and black environment. To understand women, wrap your mind around this weird truth.
Girl's Have Sexual Fantasies
A story on this one my friends. I remember a time when a girl I was seeing sexually want to have sex in a hot tub.
This was her fantasy, she also always wanted to have a blindfold on during foreplay. And yes, some of you reading might think this is not true, but I am telling you the 100% truth.
Girls have fantasies. Young women, in particular, face unique challenges and experiences that shape their desires. Girls like pressure on their neck believe it or not. And one time, I remember putting a Yoni Egg that she had inside her and we started having sex with the yoni egg INSIDE HER.
If any of you got uncomfortable reading this, you need to address limiting beliefs about seduction. Because this is another shocking truth on female psychology, indeed.
I encourage you all to check out Nancy Friday’s My Secret Garden if this is hard for you to believe.
I should warn you all before getting that book. It’s fucked up.
Girls Want to Be Swept Off Their Feet and Love Being Seduced
Everything you’ve been taught about female sexuality is a byproduct of propaganda.
There are major businesses involved in making men feel like women don’t like sex. However, all girls want to be seduced the right way!
What would happen to the companies that sell flowers, candy, diamonds and fancy restaurants if men can start turning girls on fast?
They would go out of business. Here is another shocking truth on female sexuality my friends, yes I am over-delivering for all of my readers…
Women go out for sex. Not only that but they go out for the sole purpose of meeting sexual options.
Now, obviously, there’s exceptions to the rule. Sometimes they just want to hang out with friends. However, I want you all to swallow this shocking truth
Women love being seduced. Women tend to prioritize social connectivity and relationships, showcasing their emotional intelligence and resilience. They fucking love it. They just don’t like guys who are mis-calibrated and cannot read her correctly when she says, “Stop.”
With all of that said, I want you all to comprehend this…
Be socially savvy, don’t be weird when you go out to talk to them. A girl does not always have to like you either, and she can still be sexually attracted!
Mind fuck, I know, but it makes sense doesn’t it? Emotional stimulation is what triggers ATTRACTION ;-))
The Takeaway: 10 Shocking Truths about Female Psychology
If I shattered your beliefs on what girls REALLY want, good, I’m glad. Because girls are just like you and me. They crave that naughty experience.
Recently, I’ve SEEN how turned on girls get when you give them the full range of emotions. You can get freaky with them faster.
Mystery, I hate to say this to you, but the 7 hour rule can be dropped down by 6 hours. You need to know that as a possibility.
Big statement? I know it is, but you need to read how sexually available she is. You need to pick up on her sexual signals or you can MISS OUT.
Throw out your preconceived notions my friends, girls are just like you in terms of how sexual they are once you understand them. Just be a cool guy and be higher status.
Here’s what I want you to takeaway from this article…
Girls are fun, flirty, might be a little emotional, but they are a microcosm of the universe. And they are a little testy here and there, but when you learn how to pass their tests, they crave your masculine presence.
When you understand what women want, what they are attracted to, and why they do what they do… Understanding women's psychology helps you provide the right kind of support and connection they need. You learn that female psychology is not hard to understand once you get experience.
Feel comfortable to leave any comments, questions, or topics you’d like me to blog about, feel free to ask me below.
