Why Do Girls Like Assholes? 7 Reasons They Get Girls but Can't Keep Them

You are about to find out seven reason’s why asshole’s get girls, however, I want to add a MASSIVE caveat, asshole’s cannot keep women. In fact, they will lead women on and make false promises. This is a small but very important reason to start out with.

So, let me say something before I even give you some of the attractive qualities of asshole’s and that is they are extremely manipulative, and never really make good on their promises.

It’s the first and most important reason I don’t want you trying to be something you are not. Most guys think being something you’re not is how to get girls.

Girl's Can Spot Fake Hard Weirdo's

Quite the contrary my friend, women see right through this manipulative behavior. How can they tell? It’s because you are trying to change who you are and if you do this, you will be tested.

I want to say that again because most of you will broadly misinterpret this and become frame freaks.

NEVER CHANGE WHO YOU ARE AROUND WOMEN LIKE YOUR TRYING TO BE AN ASSHOLE.

This is called incongruence. It basically means that you are not authentic. Often, this inauthenticity which women can easily detect. Inauthenticity is the same exact shit as incongruence.

When I say fake hard weirdo's, I mean don't try to be an asshole brothers. It's better you learn how to be a bad boy, more on this later.

All of you nice guys reading, understand that you are reading a blog that teaches boys how to become masculine men.

And it’s time that I tell you like it is. You cannot fake being an asshole. Girls call out incongruence. So how do asshole’s TRULY get girls then?

How do I become one? If you are a good guy, keep reading. More women notice the principles of assholes but often they don’t always stay with them.

The point? It’s better that you become an Alpha Male. But let’s get to the first reason girls like jerks…

Assholes Get Girls Because They Follow Their Own Lead

This is a golden rule of mine I’ve followed for years myself, and this is also why some people already call me an asshole.

That’s okay my friend. Think what you want. Labels are fables. And you’d be wise to not be so sensitive to what people say about you. So, I will encourage you to follow this attractive trait.

Check this out, did you know that there is a scientific reason why women are attracted to assholes? Read this article. From the website Coffee Meets Bagel.

Women want to see that you are not easily influenced by authorities. Take that to the bank and cash the check. I’ll tell you a quick story about this…

Read More: Why Women Have a Hoe Phase After a Break Up

Asshole Game Field Report

Year’s ago it was my 24th birthday and this was when I started realizing how powerful PUSH is, it was when I was out with friends and as I started giving women less of my attention that they actually wanted to talk to me.

Women seeking casual relationships may prioritize traits like confidence and excitement over stability, thus leading to a preference for jerks over nice guys.

In many social settings, assholes often engage in thrill-seeking behavior, which can make them appear more exciting and unpredictable.

 Asshole's Aren't Afraid to Touch Women

Years ago, I had a previous partner that watched this show and I won’t lie, this show looked stupid as I don’t like Soap Opera’s.

However, I want you to play this clip, and you’ll see how Damon Salvatore initiates kino touch.

You see, even though I don’t really care to watch this TV show anymore, I saw how many women found this asshole attractive.

So do me a favor and watch this clip of Damon and how he gets Elena turned on with his physical dominance and narcissistic traits.

It’s extremely important that you don’t forget how powerful flirting with your eyes is.

This TV character has game, and if you were smart, you’d watch this show for learning asshole game.

Even though I know you are rolling your eyes thinking, “that show is like Twilight, I don’t want to watch it.”

Go ahead man, don’t watch it. You’ll never really learn why so many women secretly like it when you can be an asshole.

Asshole's Get Girls but Alpha Males Can Keep Them

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Here’s why women are pulled towards asshole’s, it’s because they have Alpha Male qualities. However, as I stated earlier, you don’t want to be incongruent.

Some women with low self-esteem may feel drawn to these men due to the thrill and validation they seek, often believing they can change the bad boy into a good partner.

Additionally, thrill-seeking behavior can make these men more attractive to women looking for excitement and adventure.

It’s best that you OWN that you can be an asshole (sometimes). Don’t be a genuine asshole. Why? Because women often sleep with assholes but they have what is called Buyer’s Remorse.

This often happens before sex, but can happen after sex as well. I’ve heard this from many women that talk about why they regret having sex with guys.

Alpha Males are what women REALLY want. The thing is assholes have qualities of an Alpha Male.

It’s because deep down they know he is just a fucking dick and a fuck boy. In the dating field, we call this guy “Chad." 

Captain of the football team. Why did that asshole yank the girl I want Adam? 

Let's keep going, this is a HUGE reason right here...

Assholes Get Girls Because They're Bold to Most Women

Make bold moves to take risks. It’s attractive and it is an asshole characteristic with a rebellious nature. Napoleon Bonaparte once said that “history is like a woman, she favors the bold.”

How I act bold myself is I often go out in a public place and I start exercising in places that are not a gym. Think of it like social discomfort, I’ll simply do bold things in public, not just to act like a tough guy but to challenge myself emotionally.

Try this out my friend, whistle really loud in Target, Wal-Mart, or any mall with a lot of people around you. That is bold and do it in a way where you are carefree.

Meaning stop giving a rats ass about what other people think. Another asshole quality is not giving two shits. Be bold my friend. Women look at that as you don’t care.

And it turns them on. How many beta-males do you see taking risks? You don’t see it because they just want to be friendly, agreeable and they are nervous to speak up.

I’d say this is the most important and obvious reason that assholes are highly attractive. This dominant personality often aligns with traits found in the dark triad, which includes narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy.

Asshole's Get Girls Because They Do What They Want

Assholes do whatever the hell they want and as I said, they don’t give a flying fuck. They are highly confident and they are not afraid to do anything.

Many men are unaware of what hot women desire; success with hot women is not about having the perfect frame, but more of psychotic confidence. I'll cover this soon.

Understand that frame and confidence are extremely closely related. A good guy can be attracted to beautiful women, but a beautiful woman is more drawn to a bad boys.

Speaking from experience, every time I've pulled hot girls, they noticed how socially savvy I am around most women. They would call me an "Asshole, player, schmoozer..."

My response would always be, "I can 110% agree with that."

Women are attracted to men that hold their frame and not even question their own convictions.

Another note to make is often girls can be attracted to emotionally unavailable men.

Meaning, they do what they want, they are not emotionally invested in the relationship with them.

Which means guys can give them good sex. But never fully commit. 

Often bad boys just do whatever they want with girls, and they possess dark triad characteristics such as low agreeableness, apathy, and they are delusional in their own confidence.

Asshole's Have The Strongest Frame Ever

Assholes get girls because they have a powerful masculine frame. They also have the certainty of a psychopath and exhibit narcissistic traits.

Nice guys have zero certainty. So here’s a great way to have a strong frame… I give a clear exercise to overcome approach anxiety. And that is you start expressing CERTAINTY.

A nice guy often is afraid to express himself. This is when you’ll hear me say this only ONCE on my blog.

Vulnerability is self-expression. If you want to be a bad boy the right way, I suggest you consider making self-expression top priority.

Masculine men can be vulnerable, some of you might disagree. However, this is where I come in and say this to you the reader.

Confident men are freely expressive. Girls love masculinity, but they want to see you are charismatic.

If you want to have the strongest frame ever, have self esteem, be freely expressive and be socially savvy.

Women are attracted to men that possess dark triad traits, in conjunction with being freely expressive.

An easy shortcut if you think this is not possible for you is to start connecting with people and develop social status.

Start talking to girls more often, start being more social. If you want good social skills, you need to talk to GIRLS!

In case you didn't know, the more you talk, the more you develop frame.

Assholes Get Girls Because They Are Sexually Attracted to Assertiveness

This ties in to frame control as this is an obvious reason why assholes can turn in to a frame freak and act like a degenerate. 

Often women mistake domineering and overbearing energy for strength. And this is why asshole game can be taken to the extreme quite easily.

And this is where I think asshole game only goes so far because if you try to be too assertive, you end up becoming a true genuine asshole, and that is why assholes cannot keep women. 

Their energy is so fucking overbearing that their assertiveness overwhelms girls and then girls try to fix the asshole and turn them around in to a good guy.

And that is the glaring reason why I don't encourage too much asshole game because if you lean too far in to assertiveness combined with a strong masculine frame, turns out that girls find out you're just a fucking asshole with no compassion.

That is why Alpha Males have social calibration. They are bold, have a strong frame, and have a masculine mindset, but they know how to watch their aggression.

There must be balance my friend. Too much of using these qualities, girls will not stay with men that push this too far.

Assholes Are Not To Be Fucked With

This is the seventh reason, so here’s what I’ll say here, that is genuine assholes are like degenerates when girls cross their boundaries, often resembling the ‘bad guys’ who attract women seeking excitement. 

Social calibration my friend, this is why I said assholes cannot keep women. If a woman crosses a boundary, they often respond with combative energy and try to control women way too much.

Then women feel trapped in a relationship with an asshole that they thought was strong, but in reality, he’s just a genuine asshole. You must know how to set boundaries with no malicious 'aggressive' vibes.

Often assholes set boundaries with passive aggressiveness and it looks insecure. So my friend, if a woman crosses a boundary with you, start setting healthy boundaries with no negative passive aggressive energy.

I want you to learn these qualities of an asshole but know how to use it properly. Don’t ever become a TRUE genuine asshole.

Alpha Male's Own That They Can Be an Asshole (Sometimes)

You can be an asshole (but just own it). Some men play games, adopting manipulative tactics and strategic behaviors in relationships. 

The reason why is because when you try to fake it, women see right through it. I’d rather you own the fact you’re an asshole.

Often I would bump in to girls at the bar and I would say, “you have a beef with me?” They would call me an ass. Then I would say, “You’re EXACTLY right.” Hold my frame and not flinch and look at them dead in the eyes.

This is an example of how you can own it. Often I’ll put my girlfriend in her place if she makes unnecessary comments.

“Do me a favor and let me know that you’re about to act up because I have no problem putting you in your place. You’ve been acting like trouble.”

Then she get’s turned on and says, “what are you going to do about it?”

I will often say, “You have those handcuffs right? Find them before I come over later.”

Asshole's Know How to Seduce Women with Assertive Energy

I have an episode called Women Don't Want to be RESPECTED? It's TRUE!!

A simple way to demonstrate masculinity is to have higher testosterone in the bedroom.

Meaning, start smacking her ass. If she likes pressure on her neck, then give the girl you are fucking good sex.

Obviously, read her comfort, don't misinterpret me, I don't mean go overboard with the choking.

Know how to calibrate it accordingly. Remember this my friend, Alpha Males aren’t assholes just to be an asshole.

In fact, Alpha Males are good guys but if you cross a boundary, you are fucked with a capital FUCKED. Often, Alpha Males have no problem dropping women that don’t add value to their life.

Bad Boys are not Easily Tamed, They are a Challenge

Everything leading up to this point, you should notice by now, very few women will stay with assholes.

You are just a short term fling. She may be sexually attracted to you if you are an asshole.

It's better that you have the energy of a bad boy. As we all know, nice guys are not sexually attractive.

Women want to know that you simply own your masculinity, be comfortable in yourself, give her the full range of emotions and give her amazing sex.

You want interested leads in your love life? I suggest becoming a bad boy. The difference between an asshole and a bad boy is assholes can just be cold and heartless.

Bad boys are a challenge, but they can maintain attraction in their relationships.

Bad Boys Radiate Masculine Power

Brother's I do not want you to misinterpret this section and become a degenerate. 

If you've noticed, this article requires you to know how to develop a healthy ego, but you don't lose yourself in the process when you get to know your dark side.

I go in to greater detail in my hardcover book on developing masculine power. However, what I want you to takeaway is to own your dark side. 

That is to say, everyone tends to talk shit about having an EGO. But here's my take on this...

Make Friends with Your Dark Side and Control It

This right here is how to be a bad boy the right way, only then when you get to know your dark side that you TRULY become a bad boy.

You need to know what you're capable of in terms of what you can do to another human being. You need to know your killer instinct. 

But obviously, don't be STUPID, and abuse your power. Control that shit. 

Listen up brothers, sometimes you need to befriend your dark side, and become playfully cocky. 

Yes, it's all good. Just don't TRY to prove yourself and be boastful. One more thing, it's okay to get over rejection like a sociopath.

But remember, I just mean turn off that wimpy feminine side when you are rejected. Don't be a passive aggressive loser and lose all emotional control.

Common Questions

So many guys don’t understand why assholes get girls, but often you’ll find that immature girls are drawn to the superficial attraction of a true asshole.

Attracting more women often involves understanding various personality traits and behaviors that appeal to females. Years ago, I was with an Italian woman, she genuinely wanted me to act like a twisted person.

She’s now out of my life. So let’s answer a few questions that I’m sure are buzzing in your head…

"How do assholes get girls?"

By being self-entitled and never thinking of others and having a strong, dominant, assertive frame.

Some women do prefer bad boys, as they often embody confidence and independence, traits that can be enticing.

Assholes attract girls because of their dominance and control in the world. Funny enough, I’ve met assholes that are kinda cool.

So don’t ride them off entirely unless if they are a genuine asshole.

"How do I become one?"

Here’s what you do, just think of yourself and embrace selfish behavior. Be more self-entitled and stop caring of other people’s opinions.

Start giving less fucks. Work that IDGAF muscle. Ask yourself, “how can I give less fucks?”

Then you’re halfway there. However, don’t be incongruent. Most assholes can be incongruent.

Become an Alpha Male instead. It’s harder, but women will want to stay with you.

"What if I don't Want to be an Asshole?"

That's fine. Just don't have low self esteem. Don't be a nice guy.

Becoming emotionally unavailable may be a good idea for you to consider.

Just have good social skills, be masculine, and indifferent on women's opinions of you.

"Why do Alpha Males keep women?"

It’s because they have the women’s best interests in mind and provide emotional stability. Most women seek traits like confidence and authenticity in men, suggesting that the majority are not as superficial as they may seem.

They are more congruent and their words and actions aren’t mismatched.

Alpha Males know how to set healthy boundaries. Assholes set boundaries with passive aggressiveness.

Alpha males are also clear with their intentions. Assholes have no problem just hitting it and quitting it.

Assholes use women and they can be cold just for the sake of being cold.

Alpha males also have more compassion than assholes. They aren’t passive aggressive.

Lastly, alpha males have more honor than asshole’s and they are also not to be fucked with.

7 Reason's Why Asshole's Get Girls over Nice Guys: Bottom Line

The conclusion we can come to is being an Alpha Male is what you want to learn because asshole’s cannot keep women. The fine line between assholes and alpha males is they both are self-entitled but the asshole often manipulates and uses women.

Not all women adhere to the stereotype of preferring jerks or 'bad boys', and in fact, many are more flexible in what they find attractive in a man, suggesting that being authentic and confident can be more appealing.

This is why women do like assholes because they have a strong reality and they aren’t to be trifled with. However, you never want to take your power to the extreme and become a genuine asshole.

Genuine assholes disagree with people and they rude and cruel things just for the hell of it. And they don’t even take in to consideration other people’s feelings.

Compassionate assholes like me are often looking out for the betterment of humanity. I have no problem calling women out on their bullshit if they act rude.

And most guys are afraid to do this. I strongly encourage you to conquer your fears and become more bold. That in my opinion is the obvious and most attractive quality of an asshole.

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